Should I expect my unborn child’s father’s parents to side with him?

[TheNightWeMet]

Just told the father of my unborn child I’m pregnant. He said he doesn’t want to be involved and can’t be a father but he will tell his parents. Any experience of the father’s parents being involved and not the father?! I know this is highly unlikely. I’ve not met them although I know they are very loving parents who have done everything for him and his sister. Thank you.

We have this situation in DHs family. DN has contact with PILs (her grandparents) and us (uncle, aunt, cousins) but not her father (BIL). He did have contact with her as a toddler, but then chose not to continue. His loss, she's brilliant.

@Aroundtheworldin80moves I’m so glad you have a lovely little girl involved in your lives. you’re right - his loss! Such a shame for him.

My ex isn’t involved and none of his family have ever bothered with our children since we split, if you’ve never met them then be prepared that he might not actually tell them I wouldn’t expect anything from them personally, saves disappointment

My DCs dad doesn’t see them at all but we regularly see his parents, siblings and their children. They feel very much like my in laws despite never having been married to him. I won’t say it’s been plain sailing to get here but I’m glad we’ve managed to find a comfortable peace to exist together and my Dc can know their paternal family.

@TheNightWeMet shes a teenager now. He's definitely the one whose lost out.

It can only benefit the child to have loving grandparents in their lives. Assuming they are good people. This also maybe gives the child a link it it's Father Time will tell on that one.

Slightly different as I was with my ex for 14 years but the children and I still visit them as he doesn't take the kids or see them Himself. And my eldest is nc with his dad. And they are lovely kind people.

My daughter did ask her child’s other grandparents if they wished to have a relationship with her child. They responded by threatening to report her to the police for harassment if she ever dared contact them again. Their loss.