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Struggling

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xmumofone · 12/01/2022 01:16

I'm struggling tbh. I don't feel or think I'm good enough to be a mum. I don't know if this is because I'm trying to cope with a lot of other things happening in my life. But I just feel like I'm failing. I can feel myself getting wound up easily & snap too easily. My sons 1 & feel as though he's already starting the 'terrible 2s'. I don't know why I'm writing it on here but I feel I need to get it off my chest.

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purpleme12 · 12/01/2022 01:19

It's really hard isn't it

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xmumofone · 12/01/2022 01:20

@purpleme12

It's really hard isn't it

Very

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Hapoydayz · 12/01/2022 01:20

You are your sons world. Its so hard but I bet you are doing great. Children can be annoying. Deep breath, tomorrow is another and hopefully better day

Hapoydayz · 12/01/2022 01:21

I should add yes it is also shit! For now

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xmumofone · 12/01/2022 01:22

@Hapoydayz

You are your sons world. Its so hard but I bet you are doing great. Children can be annoying. Deep breath, tomorrow is another and hopefully better day

I hope so. People say I'm a good mum but I just don't believe it anymore. Just finding this so hard at the minute

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MintJulia · 12/01/2022 01:49

I found it helped to have a list of all the things ds & I had worked out together and conquered.

From bf to finding the perfect non-leaky nappy, to ds walking to trying finger food for the first time. A list of absolute proof that you are both doing well. .

And yes it isn't easy.

PurpleSneakers · 12/01/2022 02:21

That sounds really hard @purpleme12. And writing on here shows that you are a good, caring parent who is trying.

I like the pp's idea about listing your successes together.

If you do have some enjoyable times together, what are you doing in these times? Could you build on this?

For the times that you are getting wound up easily, perhaps you could take yourself to a quiet space away from your son for a couple of minutes and do some relaxing deep breaths so you have that time to calm yourself?

PurpleSneakers · 12/01/2022 02:24

Sorry that was meant for @xmumofone

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xmumofone · 12/01/2022 02:31

@MintJulia

I found it helped to have a list of all the things ds & I had worked out together and conquered.

From bf to finding the perfect non-leaky nappy, to ds walking to trying finger food for the first time. A list of absolute proof that you are both doing well. .

And yes it isn't easy.

Thank you. I will try this

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xmumofone · 12/01/2022 02:35

@PurpleSneakers

That sounds really hard *@purpleme12*. And writing on here shows that you are a good, caring parent who is trying.

I like the pp's idea about listing your successes together.

If you do have some enjoyable times together, what are you doing in these times? Could you build on this?

Yeah I'm defo going to try this!

With it just being me & my son he usually just follows me wherever I go. Often lock myself in the bathroom for 5 but even then he's screaming at the door. I've recently started work again so when I don't have my son at weekends I'm working nights & usually doing it through the week when I have him too. So I think this is playing a big part of how I'm feeling too. I appreciate everyone's replies as it has been quite lonely lately

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Chucklecheeks01 · 13/01/2022 11:13

Bad parents don't question themselves.

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xmumofone · 13/01/2022 13:10

@WhoAre

Gosh, it's so hard when they're that age! My son was particularly clingy at that age too so I felt I NEVER got any peace.

A bad parent wouldn't even worry if they thought they were failing their child and that alone shows that you're a caring and nurturing parent.

Remember that it's okay to take a step away from baby and take a deep breath. Even if baby is upset, if you need a minute then you take it.

Toddlers are fucking annoying and it's normal to feel annoyed. Don't let these perfect mums you see online fool you otherwise.

Oh definitely! These past 2 days he hasn't been too bad which has been nice. My problem is I'm too proud to ask for help but after the other night when I posted this I realised how run down I actually am. Trying to juggle a new job & my son is so fucking hard!!😂 yes these perfect mums online make it look oh so easy🙄 angers me haha.

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Mumoftwoboysssss · 30/01/2022 09:41

I’m a single mother with 2 beautiful boys, one is deep within his ‘terrible twos’ and the other is 5 years old.

I don’t have a great support system and rarely get any ‘me time’, only when they’re at school and even then it’s a race against the clock.

Are there any other mums feeling the same? If so how to you balance this within your lifestyle?

How do you find time for yourself to socialise etc ?

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