Missing your child

[sweetpopcorn86]

How did you cope with missing your very young children when they were with your ex after divorce/separation?

How did you bring yourself to trust your ex with them if you are the primary caregiver?

Did you ever feel like the time away from you made them be less attached to you?

Feeling down. Can't bring myself to think about my baby not being with me after our divorce finalises. She's only 12 months old.

Is there a reason why you wouldn’t trust him?

My ex doesn’t have our children at all I do think in time you will appreciate having a break though I realise it might not seem like it at the moment.

I have two kids, the youngest is now 11 months and we split during pregnancy. Not an amicable split either.

Best advice is just to keep yourself busy. I use the time they are gone to meet friends, go shopping, get a massage, do housework.

I wouldn't say they are less attached to me at all. I am trying to frame it as I am more present with them as I can do the boring stuff when they are not here.

The youngest has only been doing one overnight for 3 weeks and I have to say I have been appreciating that one night to myself as I've been doing literally everything on my own until then.

Its really tough and it's not the family life I had pictured but it is what it is.

@popcorn86 I replied to your dm.