Recent single mum

[Lillym4]

Hi, i am a mother of 4 kids, going through mental abuse and i am scared some day it will lead to domestic too therefore i am thinking to do seperation/divorce him before it happens, my biggest fear is how will i manage all the expenses, like rent and bill, kids expenses, food. I was told by my partner that i will not get much support from government and i ll kneal to him again. If anyone can guide me on what kind of benefits that i can apply once i am out in this relationship and am i eligible for it, i am thinking to apply for a part time job as soon my youngest 3 becomes full time in school, my oldest is 10 years old.
Please any single parent, who have gone through this, help me out so i can take a step to come out of this miserable life, PLEASE GUIDE, desperately waiting for someone's response.

Firstly, sorry you are going through this. Its awful, I've been there.
When you get a chance, try one of the benefits calculators and fill in all the details. It will give you an idea of what to expect once you do leave. However, the most important thing is to secure accommodation for yourself and kids. If you are genuinely suffering abuse then I would definitely contact Women's Aid. They should be able to go through everything with you and potentially help you with an exit plan. Take it one action at a time and breathe. I wish you the best. X

Thank you for your respose, i did my calculation online and it says i ll get what my rent is right now, what about the rest of the expenses, it no more after that and that's what concerned me and lead me to speak to on mumsnet. There is no more housing benefit, no mone income support or child tax credit, what UC is saying is not fair on me once i leave, its like putting my kids on more risk once i leave...dont want to be homeless or in stage of lacking in food or necessity

Universal credit has taken over previous benefits like income support. Housing benefit extra.

You will get an adult element for yourself and a child element for each child. Depending on the year they were born.

Then a housing element.

If your children have any disabilities or yourself you get a premium for that and for being a carer.

Pip or dla remains in place on top of any universal credits.

Then you can claim directly to your council for help with your council tax.

Turn2us has a calculator and a help line. I know it's scary but please don't stay because of money. You can make it work.

Ex should also pay his child support. But I am sure you are aware that isn't always straight forward.

Good luck.

Contact citizens advice if you are in the UK they will let you know. Do you get child benefit already? Universal credit will give you an allowance and for Al least 2 of your kids as well as the housing money if you.qualify for it.