Most ridiculous comment

[TurnUpTurnip]

I just wondered if anyone else had a ridiculous comment someone has said to them as a single parent?

I am a lone parent, my ex is not involved at all and has no contact with our children literally nothing at all, this means I never get any time off and never have a break, I’m with my kids every single day. I mentioned to my mum how it would be nice to have a break and she said “you do get a break, you had a break 5 years ago when I looked after them for you” 5 YEARS ago! The worst part is she was being serious 🤦🏻 Ok so I had a break FIVE years ago, must not forget that 🙄

Yeah that's not nice of your mum. I guess when she needs help she can shell out for it herself.

As for people in general, they all seem to think the single mums all have help and free weekends when many of us are like you, with hardly any breaks at all. I get about two nights a month with only one dc instead of two. Whoopee do...

Yes I’ve heard that one, I’ve heard people in relationships saying they are jealous of single mums as they get the weekends off 🤦‍♀️

Also the assumption that we all get maintenance and “can’t you just use their maintenance money” yeh I don’t get a penny!

Wow, your mum sounds charming - not. I have adult daughters and could never see them struggle like you do. I hope she doesn't expect you to care for her in her old age.

Honestly I am so mentally drained at this point from having to do everything myself.

If I have to hear another woman say she has no idea how to do such and such as her husband always does it I think my head will explode. I think many people don't know how easy they actually have things. (although I am sure someone will come along and say they eat rocks for dinner and live in a shoebox in the road, so I shouldn't complain, or something)

OP you have said this on a thread before.

My mum says parents don’t need breaks as that’s what you sign up for when you become a parent. She’s quite old fashioned in her views. Forgets I don’t have a partner who can parent the kids if I go out etc share the household stuff. It’s full on. She also said when I split from my ex at 26 I couldn’t date till the kids were 18 as they were my priority and I had to be selfless because she didn’t date until we were in our later teens. But then she also told me my autistic son needs to learn how to be normal so ive learned to ignore her

l hear you OP, l never got a break either, mine are older now so in some ways it has got easier. l must admit my own personal views on single parenting were quite different to the reality of it, it is relentless, you need to be operating at maximum capacity every single day just to keep things afloat, l thank God l'm in good health. l am a widow, people naturally assume the kids Dad is around, l get stupid comments all the time, like when l am digging the garden over " Cant your husband do that ? But its worst when someone says to one of my sons, " Your tall, is your Dad tall ? " l appreciate they arent to know, but it stabs like a knife.

Sorry I didn’t realise there was a limit to posting, I have mentioned it before but she said it again that’s why I posted, more wanted to hear what others have had said to them...

I’m sorry to hear that Moonface123 people really don’t think before they comment do they.

I had one where I took my daughter to school and her TA came out to meet us (she has a 1:1) and me and a man was stood waiting at the gates and she said “Oh hi MR (insert my surname!) how nice to finally meet you!” I had never seen this man before in my life but she assumed he was my partner, I wasn’t even stood next to him or talking to him it was so bizarre.

Iamkmackered1979 My mum has similar views she said no man would want me now that I’m a single mum 😐

@TurnUpTurnip yep my mum also said similar, who’d want someone with 4 kids etc
Could be why she moved to Australia when first grandson was born and now lives 500 miles away.

At a wedding I had DD who was around 2, I ordered one small drink and the barman laughed and asked if 'Daddy was on duty tonight'
In the Disney store, around the similar age DD asked where Daddy was. I told her he was probably at work, and the shop assistant said 'making lots of pennies for you to buy all these lovely toys you lucky girl'

I get all those comments but i think the most random is when people ask, despite knowing i am very much a single parent, if i'm going to have any more children soon!! It's worse when they decide to ask my child if they would like a brother or sister or would it be nice if Mummy had another baby. Thankfully my child currently really appreciates that it's just us and says no, lol