Sick of it all

[purpleme12]

I am so sick of parenting my child
Sick of the attitude
Sick of her preferring her father, saying I'm rude just because she doesn't like what I'm saying and I don't let her get away with stuff and don't play with her when she's being rude
Sick of her going la la la la la and other attitudey shit when I'm talking just cos she doesn't want to listen to me cos I don't bow down to her
Sick of her liking daddy and saying she's not rude there cos it's just me that makes her angry and it's all my fault she's angry
I am sick of parenting her

I'm so sick of having to put up with shit and being blamed for everything

How old is she?

Just 8

That’s really tough. I’m sorry you are feeling like this.

She does love you, you know.

I wonder if you can put aside some time to do something special just the two of you? Spend some really quality time together?

We do so many things together
And she can be so lovely
And then bam she gets shitty with me gets angry cos something doesn't go her way or I don't acquiesce to her and then she won't/can't stop
I'm just so sick of the same shit day in day out
I want to go back to enjoying her and not having to field the attitude
And field the comments about how I make her angry, it's my fault, she's just angry at daddy's and daddy's never rude to her. I'm not even a strict parent
I just don't want to do it all over again and wake up and do it all over again

you are her safe space. She isnt rude to daddy as she isnt comfortable with him compared to you.

I am sorry you are going through this though. 8 is not an easy age

Thank you @holly60 @GettingItOutThere
Thank you for acknowledging me

Sorry you’re feeling this way. I’d say she’s going through a phase and the fact she takes it out on you is because you are the closest person to her, as hard as that may be.
My daughter is 11 now but at 8 was more of a ‘pre teen’ than an 8yo child so watch out for early signs of hormonal changes. It may seem early but it happens, as it did with us.

Spend some quality time together and ask her if there’s anything going on. Make sure she knows you are there for her and love her. It’ll calm down eventually.

Thank you for your words
I do ask her why she does these things and it'll either be you make me angry (there is nothing that I can logically do to make her angry to start with so I can only put that down to me not saying what she wants or letting her do what she wants or some slight thing not going how she thought it should or something) or I don't know. I'm almost desperate for there to be a reason so there's something I can work with
But i don't know if it's a phase like you say or if there's some underlying reason that even she doesn't know

There's just no reasoning with her at all
She'll just say I make her angry. Could be something as simple as saying no to something she wants or I'm not happy with something she's done even though I don't raise my voice or go full on or anything. And then that's it she's off. Worst attitude ever. Brick wall comes up, no point in talking at all.
But of course daddy wouldn't make her angry
I'm so sick of being treated like shit

How long have you been separated from her Dad?
My youngest DD (now 7) went through a really difficult phase post separation. That was 3 years ago and I honestly think she's only come out of it recently.
I laid down some boundaries but also just constantly reassured her. I think a lot of it was anxiety and her testing me to see if I would leave like her Dad did.
It was rudeness, tantrums, ungratefulness. But would be a little angel at her Dad's. It was sooo hard.
But like pp said you are her 'safe' person.
Thank god she's come around again. I'm sure yours will too.
Hugs though in the meantime. It's hard.