What do you send for overnight contact with NRP?

[Silverchamber]

Their dad pays maintenance, but not the recommended CMS amount, this has been arranged privately. He wanted to pay far less than we eventually compromised on. I don't know his exact earnings to be honest but i worked on a ball park figure from when we were together over a year ago. I earn slightly less than him due to being part time, however he paid no extra during my short maternity leave.

10 month old is going for overnight contact, what would you be sending with her?

Clothes that’s all , he should be providing milk bottles food snacks nappies wipes toiletries toothpaste brush etc also a cot and bedding etc as that’s basic elements. Some people don’t send any clothes but when they not small they are not going get wear out of it before it’s to small

My kids dad has never had them overnight if he did I would expect him to provide what they needed.

Mine pack their whole little lives in an overnight bag. Only thing they don't take is a toothbrush. 😢

I'd just pack an outfit for the next day. Pjs, toothbrush, nappies, wipes and spare clothes he should already have.

Thanks all. He had asked for everything down to wipes, so I wasn't sure what the norm was as I had expected him to have this and I'd just send pjs, favourite comforter and outfit change. Clothes I don't mind as she grows so quickly. Have been building up contact to full days and I was sending every little thing with her but how will she ever feel at home?

Nah he needs to provide everything for her on his contact time. When little sure the comforter and emergency change if clothes is fine - we'll actually I'd sort through her clothes and give him some basics to keep at his place that he launders and then moving forward he buys what he needs as she grows bigger.

I just send DS with a change of clothes for the next day, everything else he provides. He’s 4 now but has been going overnight since he was about 8m.

You wouldn’t sent toilet paper and soap he provides wipes and nappies. Same thing

As tough as it is op send your dc... He would be expected to provide everything..
Or you are enabling him to be a lazy twat.

And the day you forget xy or z he will blame you.. He needs to take responsibility for the contact and what having a dc around entails /costs.

If he's not paying the correct maintenance then go via the CMS. Under these circumstances I'd send nothing. It's up to him to provide. Don't give in to this.

The child and the clothes they stand up in

The NRP is NOT a babysitter - they are the parent and they provide precisely what is needed

Nothing, I didn’t even send clothes. I used to send everything but stopped when he used to do nothing but give me nasty remarks on me buying primark and Asda brand wipes etc. He couldn’t seem to understand this might be because he refused to pay maintenance and actively hid his 60k income . .

He doesn’t see our child anymore these days (his choice) and I can’t say either of us are bothered about that.

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The NRP is NOT a babysitter - they are the parent and they provide precisely what is needed

This. He’s got a cheek. Step up and be a parent. It involves cost.