Hi, my son is 17 months old. His dad left when he was 7 weeks and hasn’t been having him over night until the last few months.
Our agreement was every other Saturday night from tea time till lunch the next day. All was going well, he asked if he could change it to Friday due to work been offered on a Sunday. I was ok with this. However, yesterday I phoned to see what time I was dropping our son off. He was in the pub, and said he was having a drink then will be home. I instantly felt unsure about taking our son with him drinking, but he phoned me back to say he was home and jumping in shower and will let me know when he is sorted. 2 hours passed and I heard nothing, I phoned and he hung up. Then he called back a bit after and said he hasn’t been in the shower yet. By this time our son was hungry as he was supposed to be giving him his tea, it was dark outside and my ex’s attitude stunk. I asked if he wanted me to feed our son, and keep him as it was getting late. He said for me to do what I want and called me some unreasonable nasty names and hung up. I tried to call back but he kept hanging up and ignoring my calls. I kept our son, I woke to some nasty messages from him threatening to take me to court etc! Then this morning he is full of apologies. He wants to come over to see our son, but I’m angry at him for the things he said and the way he let him down.
What do you suggest I do from here?
Should I stop him coming to my house to see his son and just see him on his weekends?
Or should I forgive him? Help please!!