Contact with dd when ex works away

[earlytwentiesmama]

Hi,

My dd is 7 weeks old, father has been in and out of the pregnancy, decided to make some questionable choices and I cut contact due to be abusive behaviour towards the end.

Had my dd and he wasn't around, was working away and I hadn't told him when my c section was. He met my dd and demanded to see her regularly.

I offered twice a week in a cafe etc as don't feel safe him begin at my home and definitely not at his. He's demanding he have her by himself and I have said no. She's 7 weeks old!

He's going to court to argue it etc. Currently he's not got parental rights and he works away, usually in a pattern of 4/5 weeks away and 1/2 weeks home! How would that work in terms of contact please as I'm very confused. And what's the likely outcome?

Thankyou so much :)

How can he have regular contact when he is away.

Speak to hv about his abusive behaviour. Get it on record.

No one is going to allow him to take the baby at 7 weeks old for contact.
I think if you don’t feel safe with him you need further advice ASAP for a start.

say no. keep a diary and stand your ground

speak to your Health visitor for support and unless he steps up while you are there, why on earth does he think you will trust him

Don’t respond to him any further. Let him take it to court.

You contact women’s aid about the abuse. They will be able to advise on what you need to do, and might have a list of solicitors that you can contact. Do that and let the solicitor handle all communication. They will be able to advise you on what is likely to be granted by court.