Family Court again and again

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I am being taken to the family court again, four months after I received a barring order. This is the 5 time I've been taken to court in 13 months and 9th time in two years. This time because I asked if my son's father book his holiday in summer 2022 five days after he planned to as we will be away seeing family who live abroad and we've not seen due to COVID. He hadn't even booked flights yet. I received a barring order only months ago and it seems its not even worth the paper it's written on. Am now faced with the whole rigmarole of CAFCASS interviews and family court hearings because one man can't stand a woman having opinions about her own child. Has anyone been through repeated family court and been able to make CAFCASS understand? In my experience, they've always been so appalling. When my ex would stalk me and sit in his car outside my house at night revving his engine, their report said he was just trying to make contact with me. The whole thing drives me up the wall with how misogynist the family court system is.

Sorry to hear about what you are experiencing. Can you try and push for a section 91(14), prevents your ex from taking you back to court without asking the courts permission first? My ex would repeatedly take me back to court and I was lucky, I eventually got allocated an amazing cafcas officer who saw him for what he was. Please report anything which may be deemed as harassment, IME nothing happens but it is then logged and you can then use this as evidence if needed.
On more than one occasion in the family court I have been threatened and intimidated by my violent ex partner, they are sadly useless and facilitate the abuser to continue abusing the victim. The service needs a huge overhaul with DV training to all staff at the very minimum.

If you have a section 91(14) i.e. a barring order, he needs the permission of the court. Is it possible the court might have overlooked the fact one if in place? Could you call the court and remind them you had this barring order granted?

OP I totally agree with you that the courts don’t get it at all when it comes to domestic abuse etc. If it helps I can tell you that I finally did manage to get CAFCASS to understand after about 6 years of back and forth at court, to the point that they recommended no physical contact with dad due to emotional abuse (having started out criticising me for being a “hostile and obstructive mother”. Unfortunately the judge then overruled CAFCASS which is almost unheard of. I agree the system needs overhauled and more attention needs to be given to the fact that abusive men are using the family courts to perpetuate domestic abuse and control.