So my ex finally left my house about 4 weeks ago after splitting at the end of may.
We are on 50/50 contact, even though this isn't how childcare was when we were together. Our DD is 4.5 and started school in September.
When things ended he made some comment to me about he could now go out and buy our DD Ted Baker stuff as it was better than supermarket stuff I was buying her (if he was that bothered why hadn't he put his hand in his pocket and bought this before if it was an issue, I'll never know). It stung quite a bit at the time as it made me feel inadequate and that he was looking down on me.
He's had her this weekend and it transpires that he has taken her shopping to Cheshire Oaks I believe and bought her a designer jacket. Again, it just feels that he is pissing all over my chips and he is the better parent because of it.
I know I shouldn't let it bug me, but it is doing. I'm not in the best of places as it is because of everything that has been going on as well as work - I'm currently off work due to anxiety, depression and stress.
He even said in a phone conversation a couple of weeks ago that he had purposefully held off buying things for his as he didn't want it to become a competition - effectively saying because of the stuff he's bought , our daughter would prefer it at his. All contact is now via WhatsApp.
Slightly different thing, but does related to Cheshire Oaks a little - When I mentioned her going back to dancing, he gave me a reply of
"I think I'll give it a try first, will need to go on the bus as I need to keep the van use to a minimum. Pick up and drop off are OK but I don't want to push it too far." It's a works van and it's making me wonder what use he is insured for - how can pick up and drop off at dancing be an issue, but going to Cheshire Oaks in it is ok? I'm worried he's driving our DD around for personal use, but isn't actually insured 😳😳 He doesn't have a car. The van is supplied to him through his work. I want to ask him to show me how and what its insured for - if he refuses, would I be out of line to approach his work to confirm it?
Thanks