Now its over and I move into my new place on Thursday - Come and tell me all the good stuff!

[massivebigpantsface]

I know its not going to be easy but I'm trying to focus on the positive...

so far...
I LOVE my new flat!
I will have the whole wardrobe to myself!

what else?

oh come on people please, i need a boost!
half way between and at the moment and don't want to fall the wrong way tonight!

You don't have to live with someone else's mess/bad habits.

thank you earlybird. Well dh is a tidy man really but he does have his fair share of bad habits.
I will not miss him saying "you never rinse the bath out!" when it was just that one odd time i forgot.
I will not miss his random moodyness casting a black cloud over my home.

Box of tea bags last a lot longer (sorry, random good point I know!)

ah yes - toilet roll will go on forever now too!

You can eat what you want when You want how you want.

You can do what you want, you will be happy, you have to answer to no-one.
X

The remote control is yours
The bottle of wine is yours
The chocolate in the fridge will always...be yours

Fingers crossed for Thursday, let me know if you need a hand with anything xxx

haha! everything will be MINE! fab!
Thanks L x

Never having to have the "where have you been" conversation when you don't anwer your mobile on the first ring..

When you put something down it will still be there when you go back..

When you are in a good mood you can stay in it rather than having some-one elses black mood thrust on you!

Will think of more!

you can find time to think?
Silence is a girl's best freind sometimes..

You can do what you want, when you want. You can watch what you want, when you want, however loud you want.

You can live in mess or tidy up - noone but YOU is in control (ok so the kids may make the mess too!)

You can have a three hour long bath and not have to explain it to anyone.

You do not have to perform sexual favours as and when demanded.

You will LOVE IT!

lol lewesfan! never have done favours on demand, but am now thinking who could i demand from!

1. can eat what YOU want for dinner
2. can watch what YOU want on TV
3. can spend all night on MN if YOU want to
4. can slob around in tracksuit without someone telling you letting yourself go

All good then.

but...
so what can I do when the (inevitable?) loneliness sets in?

Are most of you lone parents? How do you find it really?

sLOBBING AROUND IN WHATEVER you want to wear and not giving a damn if you want to stay in pajamas all day and night.

Nights in are not so hard because you can read, Mumsnet, watch telly/video, call a friend, write emails, have a long bath, etc.

Tricky times for me are weekends. I find it's best to get out at least once a day to do something fun, and/or have a firm plan with someone - park, lunch out, playdate, film, museum, etc. I strive for a good mix of activity and quiet time. Too much activity and it's tiring/too similar to the weekday slog with no time to relax/hang out, and not enough activity leads to everyone getting bored/irritable.

The list is endless:-)

You can furnish the place exactly the way YOU like it,you can cook whatever you like everyday without the man moaning-Oh,not that again!(lol),you don't have to shave your legs every day,you don' have to feel obliged to have sex when you don't feel like it(and when you do meet someone you want to get jiggy with,it'll be because you want to!),yeas,you are in control over the remote again,you can have friends and family to stay that your ex might not have liked,oh,the list is so long!!!
I have lived on my own with my daughter for 3 months,and tbh,I am having a ball!Life is actually F U N again,yes!!!!lol(oh,and no more moodswings to put up with,the ex's new squeeze is sooo welcome to him!)

it sounds like you manage very well Earlybird. I think it might be the opposite for me, days are ok, I feel I have plenty of people to see, things to do etc, plus after new year I will go back to work 2/3 days a week.
My worry is the evenings. I've always really enjoyed the odd evening to myself each week to do what I wanted but I am also used to a lot of dh's friends coming over and being social. I have some good friends myself as well but all married with children etc and I don't expect people to be coming over that often, nor would want people to because they feel like they should.
That said, I do think I will be a lot more productive in the evenings. DD is only 10m so I don't get a chance to do a thing in the day so will enjoy having the time to do some of the things I didn't make time to do before.

tetti - your post makes me smile!
I'm so glad to hear you're having fun! that is what I'm hoping for - theres just always this fear niggling away.
I know exactly how to have fun and what i enjoy and want out of life. I'm just not over-confident that I'm going to have the opportunity iyswim.