My ex FIL died last night, my twins are 18 but act much younger due to learning difficulties.
The last time they spoke to their dad was 3 years ago when we originally thought granddad was going to die (cancer) when his wish was to see them in a room together. He didn't speak to them in that time, uncle looked after them really (I kept out the way at the hotel room) , they have a close relationship with uncle and aunt, as well as with gran and grandad.
Now obviously dad will be at the funeral, along with cruella (oops I mean his wife!)
I honestly think he would walk past them in the street and not recognise them, he does usually send a gushy card at Xmas but that's the only contact he has with them.
How on earth do I support them through this? Has anyone been in this situation before?
I just want to protect them as much as I can from more hurt, they're upset enough already about losing their beloved granddad.
We live 250 miles away so that presents its own problems, not like we can just pop in and see anyone.