Flakey dad strikes again!

[confusedmummy123]

Don't know if this is right place to post....dropped kids off at at dads at 10. Their dad said to them not to make a noise as he had a headache. Que me thinking well he will ring me in am hour saying that he is ill and to come and pick them up. Suprise suppose this happened . He does it all the time though!!! I myself am ill with this bad cold that everyone has got . I said I had to do my food shopping and that I was poorly myself . I got back to my boyfriends house and slept for two hours. Not heard off my ex what would you do? I personally think that if he is ill . (Although he lies a lot and pulls sickies often so is it even true) he should just sack it up. As I have to many times over and over. When we were together I had bad tonsillitis and he wouldn't come home to help out with the kids he stayed out with his mates.

How old are the kids? As long as they are old enough that if your ex decides to fall asleep they aren't going to be in danger then good for you for not going to collect.

DP made a comment about a headache once when SDC were over.
My sympathy went as far as finding the paracetamol for him then leaving him to it.
Your ex needs to suck it up.

My ex use to always cancel contact if he was ill yet when I’m sick I just had to get on with it 🤷‍♀️

@TurnUpTurnip

My ex use to always cancel contact if he was ill yet when I’m sick I just had to get on with it 🤷‍♀️

Same. He cancels if he's sick. If his wife is sick. If his other dc are sick. If our joint dc are sick. If he's helping someone with something. If they are having a "family day". Etc etc.

Yet heaven forbid I ask him to have them for an extra day because I'm sick/have an opportunity for overtime (when I worked).

And he wonders why they don't want to see him

My ex rang me tonight cancelling tomorrow's one hour contact (his choice) because he finally has a job he said sorry for the late notice they only told me YESTERDAY WTF didn't he TELL ME yesterday then it wouldn't be late notice? He then rambled on about how he could maybe make it but he would be a bit late as he didn't finish till four except contact would have been at 11am so he would never make that plus he would have to drive almost an hour to get here he droned on and on and on until I finally said you might be best leaving it for tomorrow then which is exactly what he wanted I heard his girlfriend in the background getting snippy about me cancelling the contact too I was a bit irritated by him going on what was I supposed to say no worries come when you feel like it? ds hates changes with a passion he likes rules consistently and being on time

Sounds like I'm not the only one then. True that when we are ill we have to get in with it. In the end I text saying I've done food shopping and had a lie down does he want me to get the kids. Then he text saying no its fine now. THEUNNAMEDCAT I get this. We don't have a contact arrangement like that but e will often cancel saying got to work late, etc or only just found out that he has to work.

Turn off your phone and don't answer the door.

I have tried ive bent over backwards to accommodate this man once he had a migraine couldn't drive his car home couldn't leave it where it was so I left the kids with a sitter got him and his car DROVE HIM HOME got a lift back to my house all so he would have a car to collect the kids with the following day (his migraine rarely lasts longer than 24 hours) even that was twisted to me DEMANDING he give me his car to drive

Twas the first and last time I did that for him

Don't answer. If it's an emergency he would text. Then if it's not you can ignore.
My ex texted me two days in to a two week holiday saying he thought DD had a water infection. I said what are you texting me for? Take her to a doctor.