Hi,
ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE..
I have a three year old, her dad was my boyfriend a year before I got pregnant. Never got back together.
He visits my child sometimes once a week, mostly once every two weeks.
We get along for my child’s sake only. He is not trustworthy hence why he only comes to my house to Visit her.
The other day she didn’t want to try an item of clothing he brought for her, she said no and started crying when he said you have to try it. When she cried I said to him give her a couple of minutes when she calms down and I will try. He said no and forced her physical to put it on, she was crying so much. I told him to stop and he didn’t listen.
After this happened and I took her away from him he made comments to her. “He said why are you acting retarded? You need to act civilised, grown up I only like big girls not babies” She cried at this and was so upset
After she gave him a toy, as in to make peace with him. He held a grudge! And said don’t talk to me.
He has threatened me a couple of months ago and is verbally aggressive towards me, I have always ignored it as I thought as long as my child doesn’t witness anything and he isn’t bad towards her it’s something I can hide.. until that day I just mentioned above, being mean to me is one thing but not to my child!
We have a prohibited steps order still in place until she’s 16, so I have all parental responsibility and he can not have her without my permission..
Now what do I do?! Do I do what I think is right and refuse for him to visit her, tell him to get a solicitor if he wants to see her again? Or do I pretend this never happened and give him a warning.. which he will not accept at all as he is very immature and doesn’t know how to sit and talk like adults.
Any advice is appreciated. Thank you