Shock split

[kirst14]

My fiancé has dropped a huge bomb shell that he is no longer in love with me and is leaving the family home we share with our 2 year old. This has come as a huge shock to me and I feel
It has come out of the blue. Only days ago we was planning to make a move across the country 6 hours away to be closer to my family in the next couple of months with a house waiting for us to move into. He has give me the go ahead to make this move alone taking our daughter with me or i can stay in the family home we have now for as long as needed. I'm so torn on what to do for the best. Has anyone been in a similar position? Do I make a fresh start with my daughter with a family to support me? Or stay put to give my daughter a consistent relationship with her dad?

Don't think you're taking him away from her or vice versa. He's left and he's telling you to go.

@starrynight21

He has give me the go ahead to make this move alone taking our daughter with me or i can stay in the family home we have now for as long as needed

Well that's big of him ! Sounds like he's got it all worked out.

Something has obviously happened - sorry but in my experience the "something" is often another woman.

I wouldn't trust him to keep being a "great dad" since he is quite happy to let you move away with DD to be near your family. In your shoes I'd be making a move and making a fresh start . Your DD won't know any different, so don't be worried about his relationship with her - that's for him to work out. I'd say you'll be better off without him.

That's a pretty black and white stance.

If he'd said she 'couldn't' move, there would be things like "oh so he dumps you but expects you to hang around to make his life easier does he" comments. As it stands, he's said OP has totally autonomy and choice to do what she feels is best for her and their daughter and he will accommodate that.

In all the shitty situations men put women in, this could be a lot worse and purposefully being passive aggressive when actually no response would be good enough for you is a bit pointless.

@kirst14, good for you, good luck with whatever you decide.