How to respond to will you have another?

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When you are single, and people know that. I get asked a lot and I find it a bit awkward. I understand it's a small talk question, but to me it's something to ask people in couples if you absolutely must ask. Full disclosure I've no plans to have another. Also as a very single mother of a small child what on earth are people expecting me to say other than no?

Just say you have ordered twins off the Internet but Amazon aren't delivering on time right now.. Stoney faced...

I think people mean if you was to be in a relationship again in the future, would you want another child.

Just say no 🤷‍♀️ I have 4 and still get asked if I will have anymore, if I’m done etc despite being single.

Wtaf is wrong with people???! not envy

"no fucking way" is the normal answer? haha

No and don’t elaborate.

Well I just say probably not as I'm not with her dad anymore
But then again I'm not really bothered about people asking me

I am absolutely going to try to say that without giggling @brollywasntneededafterall Ah by the time I'm ready to date again/have any time to date my eggs will have expired. Wow! Can't believe people are still wondering whether you'll have more after 4

I agree with you op it's silly

Response is….
No turkey basters at my house
Are you offering?
Bugger off

The answer to that is "Oooh yes it really would be lovely go to Spain again soon!", big smile and the kick off a different topic of conversation. And if they are thick skinned enough to ask again "Well I was considering goose instead of a turkey this year but I'll decide in November" big smile and new topic again. Repeat until they get the message.

I always said "nope; one and done"

However, 10 years later I had another hahaha - and people are still asking even though she's only 2 months old now :-/

But one and done was my answer as I was single until the 2nd one came along

Thank you all, I've had a really good laugh!

It is just people making conversation. Just say who knows. Because you don't know what's round the corner. Depending on your age of course. My step mum asked me this the other day. I'm single and I'm 49 in a few weeks. It's just words to fill a gap.

I get asked this alot at work by customers but it's only small talk I find. In fact they always seem to feel awkward and try and backtrack after I tell them that ''the ship has sailed now. It's been just me and my DS his whole life and his now...so I just feel I'm lucky enough to have him''.
These people though have no idea I'm single. If I was being asked by someone who knew my life I'd be abit annoyed and respond sarcastically. My Dad was terrible for it a few years ago. Kept telling me my DS really needs a sibling now. That pissed me off as it was constant. Ended up saying ''oh ok dad I'll remember to pick one up when we go food shopping next!''

I do think you are over thinking it, people mean in future would you have more, so doesn’t matter if you’ve split with your ex or not as they are not referring to having one with your ex just would you be open to having another in the future

It's such an intrusive question that surprisingly people ask without knowing the other person very well. I usually respond with honesty but I also sometimes wish I could simply say "it's none of your business!"

It really is one of those very intrusive but oddly socially acceptable questions! I'm sure lots of couples have secondary infertility and find this question upsetting, or would love another child but cant afford to. The cost of childcare in the UK is mental.

Ask them the same back. Then they may realise how intrusive it can be.

It’s up there with “do they all have the same dad?” “Were they planned?”

People ask me all the time and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. We've been ttc and its been very difficult for us, emotionally, physically and it has almost broken us. These are not innocent questions, they bring people in difficult position and bring up many problems. What is wrong with people?