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I need to rant!!!!!!

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november90 · 16/09/2021 20:31

I posted this on the Covid board so sorry if you've seen it before but I am so annoyed!

So my ex-husband is due to collect the children tomorrow. He has told me that a family member has tested positive and they had contact on Sunday. She tested today so I am assuming that she took the test yesterday. Ex-husband has chosen to not have any dose of the vaccine. I have suggested that he perhaps collect the children on Sunday to give him a few days to see if any symptoms develop. He originally said he'd get a pcr test but when I asked for a copy of the results he said he won't be having one.
He is now accusing me of denying access to his children, saying I'm pulling the trigger as to when he's allowed to see them, saying I'm controlling him saying there's no trust because of me and he said that he's going to take them tomorrow, and he won't be flexible. End of.
Note he doesn't normally have them in a Friday, I agreed to swap for him. I am very concerned. The youngest child was in hospital last week and both of been very rundown recently, I also live with a clinically vulnerable person so it is natural that I am a bit cautious about this. All I suggested was that we talk about it and never once said he can't see them. I'm so unbelievably fed up of him gas lighting me and
Never considering when I act with caution. He hates the gouverment, doesn't believe in Covid or anything bla bla bla.
No point to this other then to rant :(

OP posts:
Username7521 · 16/09/2021 20:38

Oh OP, that sucks! As he's had contact with a positive case, and isn't double jabbed doesn't he need to self isolate, and hence not see the children? Has he been contacted by T&T?

november90 · 16/09/2021 20:42

He doesn't need to isolate because the contact was on Sunday and I am assuming her test was taken yesterday which is 3 days not 2.
I don't think I'm being unreasonable asking he waits until his normal day of Sunday incase any symptoms occur... it's literally 1.5 days but he's saying I'm denying contact and he won't be taking a pcr test. I just feel like I take so much care looking after these boys to keep them safe and he is just so wreckless that he's putting his wants before coming to an agreeemnt with me :(
He's saying the family member is asymptomatic but I don't believe a word he says!

OP posts:
Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 16/09/2021 20:44

YANBU, Stick to your guns, you're protecting your DC.

november90 · 16/09/2021 20:51

He has said that he's taking them and that's that. I don't know what I can do!
It's my youngest sons christening on Sunday which I have waited for over a year for due to Covid. Why would he not consider them being at home to ensure they are well. He lives with his parents who also had contact on Sunday so even higher chance of having it.
I hate this situation. He has 0 respect for any of my opinions.

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Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 16/09/2021 21:37

Don't be at home then. I'd also put everything in writing for future reference.

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