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Kihanxxxx · 30/08/2021 22:01

I'm 21 with a small baby and a single mum. And I have no friends at all. I love my daughter more than anything in this whole world but sometimes I hate my life. I look at other girls my age with so much hate and jealously because there put having fun and they all have freinds. I know it's my fault for having a baby so young (i wouldn't change a thing or trade her in for the world so don't think I'm a bad person for feeling
Like this) but I'm just feeling down :( what can I do to stop feeling like this

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FortunesFave · 30/08/2021 23:37

I really feel for you. It's very hard...but you have to take control of your life and work out how to improve it. Do you have a job at the moment or are you studying? In life, it's important to have a goal...have you got one?

FortunesFave · 30/08/2021 23:37

Meant to add....friends are made through shared experience. If you're not experiencing anything then you won't make new friends.

Kihanxxxx · 31/08/2021 00:02

@FortunesFave no I'm not working my daughter is 9 months and I get no help. And I can't really experience much as I have no one to watch my daughter say if I wanted to go out somewhere even if it just be shopping. I just feel very trapped and say in day out is just the same thing and I'm exhausted. One of my goals is I want to go back to college to become a midwife but I can't do that until she can go to nursery i think that's around 2 years old

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FortunesFave · 31/08/2021 01:51

That does sound hard Flowers I think you should contact Homestart.
They're a brilliant organisation dedicated to helping families get support when they need it. It's not a government agency...nothing to do with social workers or anything, it's volunteers who are heavily vetted..and lots of other support you can get online...advice and so on about things.
www.home-start.org.uk/Pages/Category/things-we-can-help-with

Some people find it turns their life around and end up volunteering themselves.

In the meantime, get yourself out for one walk a day...just one can make all the difference to your mental health. Try to make it among trees...scientific experiments has proven that walking in the green and among trees actually improves mood.

PurpleSneakers · 31/08/2021 02:27

I understand that it would be tough to see others around your same age out living life, but you need to know that you are living life too, no better or worse than them, just different and you have a daughter to show for it!

It is fantastic that you have a goal set for the future. How about making some baby steps towards this goal? Udemy courses can be quite cheap and they are on lots of different topics and they can be done at your own pace - perhaps there are some on the basics of anatomy and physiology to get the ball rolling for you? Or by looking into Doula courses to get started?

All the best to you and your little girl for the future.

Kihanxxxx · 31/08/2021 06:35

@FortunesFave @PurpleSneakers thank you both Thanks

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