Last night I did the right thing, and told my ex I was seeing someone else!

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Have been feeling bad for not doing the right thing & telling him sooner, but I was very nervous.

my mum told me she would not baby sit until I had told him because she felt bad, and my sister felt I owed it to him, so I plucked up courage & told him last night.

Felt physically ill before hand, but got it over with & told him, and surprisingly he took it ok.

Feel so much better now I have done it, although dad still had a wobbly tonight because only my name was written in his birthday card!

PC you are a lovely lady, but, I wish you would kick your family in to touch, I get so angry when I read how they treat you. But, PC you come across as good lady who will win in the end. Good luck and best wishes.

well done, and tell you dad exh has enough cash to buy his own card

Thank you.

Lou - I just said "It is a dad card - he is not your son & we are not a couple!"
Dad still wasn't happy though, but hey ho!

You are far too nice and you really don't seem to realise it.

are you logging onto msn tongiht at all, pc?

Will do, lou. Just come back from my parents house after giving dad his birthday present.

I don't know why you seem to think that it was "the right thing" to tell him. He has no right to know. You have been considerate and told him, but it was your choice, not his right.

Your dad is an arse.

Oh PC, my dad still rings up and says "Ask about fixing my computer!"

"Dad, he doesn't live here any more. He's not lived here for nearly a year."

"Ask him anyway, never mind all that now..."

He treats our split as some childish foible I will soon grow out of!

Good for you, PC - I agree with freckle about it being your choice rather than a duty / obligation - but I think it is another step forward, tbh.

Obviously your dad can't see that - I picture him like father Jack in Father Ted, with his mind fixated on one thing and shouting 'SIL! SIL!' for the rest of his days.

Barking!

You deserve a medal.

I can understand why you felt you had to tell him PC.

I would have to tell xp too, mainly because it would be at the back of my mind every time I spoke to him otherwise, and i'd feel better once I knew he knew.

Lol at comparing dad with father Jack, Blu!
He wasn't going to open the birthday card because ex H's name wasn't on it, and last father's day, he went off and added ex H's name to the card I gave him! It is all a little barking!

Sympathies, colditz. It all sounds pretty familiar!

hi pc hows you sweetheart? i had a date and felt i had to tell xp about it as the town where i live is fairly small and i was bound to bump into someone he knew. guess what? he played up, i had to call police and the new guy didn't work out anyway! so i am glad that things are wokring for you. love fm xxx

Oh dear, FM, poor you. Sounds like your ex is being pretty difficult.
Hope all is ok with you. Sorry things didn't work out with new guy, but there are plenty more out there that you will no doubt meet in time!

My story has moved on a bit since I last posted on this thread, as on Sunday night while out with my new man, who should I bump into but ex H & the woman he claims he is being harrassed by!!
It wasn't one of my greatest moments, but he looked far more uncomfortable!

about time that git was uncomfortable.

xp is being ok (wonder how long that will last ?)now. had bad day today and had to call him and ask him to look after dd for a couple of hours while i went into town. he came down and i was in tears thinking shit i have to ask him for help, as i don't know anyone else down here. he offered me £100 to get some shopping with til i was straighter financially

tbh with the new guy, now i think about it i didn't really fancy him that much; i think it was more a case of because he liked me i was more willing to like him. that sounds bad doesn't it?

maybe you could start a new thread.........

have you heard from tyeanddye?

I have a new thread, FM - it is in the chat section.

Glad your ex is being ok atm, lets hope he keeps it up.
Guess new guy may have been a bit if a rebound thing.

Haven't heard from Tyedye for a while, but know she is in love & I think she said she was engaged.

WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAT?

good for her!

i don't think it was really a rebound thing as such, he had been trying to get me to go out with him for over a year and then i was free to do something about it, so to speak
will go off to look for your new thread now then bbfn xxx