Can I refuse paternity test?

[Spimissrit]

Hi so I’m current 6 months pregnant and broke up with the father 3 months ago after he didn’t want the baby and was awful to me about it saying his life was over etc ( long story short) after 3 months of no contact he has told me that if I don’t discuss visitation he will take me to court . I am not putting him on the birth certificate as I think it would be best for everyone if he was nothing to do with my child ( I know people will disagree but do not know all the facts about this person) .. my question is ,, can he take me to court and make me do a dna test on my child for visitation? I don’t want his money or anything, I can provide for this child along with my other 2

Yes you can be made to. The court starts from the point of the view that the child had a right to a relationship with both parents.

Yes he can. He might not bother though

I think he deserves a chance tbh (depending on what you mean by awful?) and yes you can be made to as child has a right to see their father despite him being awful

I'd completely ignore all communication until he actually does take you to court - don't tell him when the baby is born, don't acknowledge in any way that he is the father. Don't allow him visitation or information. If he really wants to pursue this then he can but I'd make him do all the work.
He won't get access immediately anyway, especially if baby is breastfed.

You can't refuse. It costs money and time but if he's the Dad he can gain parental responsibility and have his name added to the birth certificate. Then he'd be allowed contact as it's assumed that kids benefit from contact with both parents. Even if he was abusive to you and it is documented he will still probably get supervised then later unsupervised contact.

Depending on what you mean by how bad he is, it may be in your best interests to go no contact. It won’t stop paternity test if he is determined, but you may find you have a more relaxing pregnancy. Good lick!

luck gah!

Honestly op yes he can go to court and you will be made have the paternity test. You obviously do not want to go into details about the father but the court will not look at you positively if you drag him through the paternity route when he is definitely the father. Unless you have evidence of abuse or a safety order the court will view you negatively for cutting out the father. I have been through the court systems and they don't always go in the mothers favour. Also the poster who said he wouldn't get contact if your breastfeeding is wrong and giving you false information. @MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously please do not give false information there is no way a court will prevent access just because the mother is breastfeeding.

@PumpkinKlNG

I think he deserves a chance tbh (depending on what you mean by awful?) and yes you can be made to as child has a right to see their father despite him being awful

Seriously? @PumpkinKlNG

@MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously

I'd completely ignore all communication until he actually does take you to court - don't tell him when the baby is born, don't acknowledge in any way that he is the father. Don't allow him visitation or information. If he really wants to pursue this then he can but I'd make him do all the work. He won't get access immediately anyway, especially if baby is breastfed.

Why is being breastfed anything to do with it?

I presume the PP meant no overnight contact if she’s BFing. It should be little and often with a newborn anyway.

Of course he should be given a chance, if a mum doesn’t want a baby and then decides to keep it (which happens a lot too) do you think she should be allowed to ever see it because she didn’t want the baby at first!?

And courts do award contact to fathers, op hasn’t clarified what she means by awful but I’ve known even violent fathers to still get contact with their children.

2ndtimemum2 it's not false information. A court would be very unlikely to give unsupervised access to an exclusively breastfed baby - they need to be in close proximity to the mother since they rely on her for fundamental care. I never said he wouldn't get access ever, only that it was unlikely to be immediate.

@mrshuntgenenotjeremyobviously I can tell you now that the court will immediately grant access for the father regardless of age. It will unlikely be unsupervised however if the mother is uncomfortable allowing the father in her home then it will happen in a contact center for a minimum of 1 hour with an expectation of both parents being flexible to accommodate breastfeeding. You obviously have no experience of the court system so do not provide guidance on issues you seem poorly equipped to do so

I did mean that he wouldn't get access without the mother immediately, since baby needs to be near her for the fundamental need to be fed. I do get that this might not have been clear from my post though.
The father has yet to establish paternity, so lets see how much effort he's willing to make. It might all come to nothing if the OP doesn't go out of her way to facilitate everything for him.