Struggling.

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I am struggling a lot.
I'm a single mother of 3 little girls.
(6/4/2)
My kids don't sleep until 9-10 and even then they are up every 30 minutes and then up at 6.
I'm on NO sleep everyday.

My house is trashed. I clean it spotless everyday and by morning before I'm awake it's trashed.

My kids can see I'm struggling and they are pushing every button and fighting all the time and complaining and just crying none stop.

They go to thier dads every 2nd weekend and they refuse to up their days.
They are in school and kindy and the days they are I'm trying to sleep or I'm trying to clean..

My kids deserve someone who isn't crying everyday and can keep a house clean.

Financially k can't do anything.
Mentally I'm not okay.

My last antidepressants they made me worse and I'm terrified to go on more.

I'm always tired.
I'm barely eating. Most days I'm living off of a can of energy drink as I forget to eat.
My iron is always low therefore I'm always in for iron infusions.

I'm not okay and when j tell people this I'm always told "welcome to parenthood"

You say they refuse to go to their dads, but they are tiny and you are the parent. They go, even if they are kicking up a stink, when they get there they will be fine. If you give in and let them stay then the next time it will be even harder to get them to go.

They are picking up on you being upset. They sound like they are probably over tired, and so that causes even more stress. Try gradually putting them to bed earlier and earlier- do you try putting them down all at the same time?

That's is the sort of ages that it feels relentless. I agree with pp. they can stay at dads longer. Don't give them a choice. You need the break

Can you structure in quiet time. I did this in lock down after tea everyone got an hour on screen to give me some peace and quiet.

Are there any free school lunch clubs happening in your area. You will have to go too I think. But they are fed and there are activities.

Go back to your gp. It was the third lot of anti depressants that worked for me. First two left me wiped out. Look after yourself

Op the pictures are really not that bad . Gosh my house has been awful at times when I have been finding it hard to cope . Are things any better when they are in the routine of school? Allow yourself to let the house work go a little. Its the school holidays so you will likely go in circles when they are back at school you could get things back to how you like them?

On the other have could you get them to help you. Make it into a game. Ie how many items can you put in the box in 60 seconds. Could you tell them of thry help you tidy you could all go to the park to run off some energy or maybe you could play a game at home.

Is there a reason they don't want to gobto their dads more often ?

I agree with the others it’s not that bad mine is usually worse (I have 4 kids that don’t see their dad at all) from how you’ve worded it it seems they don’t want to go rather than he doesn’t want to have them more? I wouldn’t make it a choice if that’s the case, kids have to do things they don’t want to sometimes, mine doesn’t want to go school but he still has to go

The house is not an issue, you need to concentrate on yourself. You need to eat and take iron every day. Spatone sachets are easy to take and absorb.

Can you go back to the gp and try a different type of ADs?

Sorry I should of been clear, the Dad’s aren't upping the days.
The older girls have a different dad to the younger.
The older girls dad he refuses because he's "not ready for that yet"
And younger he just started a job and it waiting for setbhours which I 100% am understanding on

Older girls kick a stink on Friday's but I still send them

Well if you need them to up the days and they won't, will they pay any extra towards childcare? Also, presuming you are in the UK, have you tried contacting home start?

www.home-start.org.uk