4 year doesn’t want to go to nursery, any suggestions?

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So it’s the final weeks before starting Reception. I decided to keep her in nursery for 3 days a week over summer so the transition won’t be so daunting for her in September. She can be a quite shy nervous child. Well the last 3 months she absolutely loved going to nursery, had no fuss/problems. Then she fell ill with a very heavy cold and was off for a week and a bit. Since then, it’s been hard work trying to get her to go to nursery, she cries all the time; night before, at breakfast, on the way in.
When I leave her it’s taking a hike for her to settle again.

Nursery has been so good for her and she had developed so much confidence.

Any thoughts/suggestions what I can do?

Do you need her to go to nursery for childcare reasons?
If not then I would be inclined to keep her off for a few days. Maybe she is still feeling ill or is worried about starting school or something else and just needs some time with you.
What is she like once she gets to nursery? Or do you not get that far?

@HungryHippo11 thank you for your reply.

I’ve kept her off a few days this week as she’s been so upset going in.

The last couple weeks, she’s actually settled after half an hour or so.

I have a 19 month at home with me, and it’s nice having my eldest at home but I really want her to mix with other children her own age. We have friends outside of nursery but I find the nursery routine does help.

I’m guessing since being ill it’s taken a little longer to settle in again. Also with starting reception in a few weeks, it’s a lot I guess to take in.
I just want her to enjoy the last few weeks. I’m worried if I keep her off all summer she will find starting reception very hard.

If you don’t need the childcare pull her out. I did this when youngest was starting reception saved a fortune and no impact on starting school but I assume you have to give notice so may not be much of a saving

is the nursery linked to the school & does it have a system for transitioning kids to school? if yes, it is probably work keeping her in

but if the nursery is completely independent, then you could pull her out & keep her at home. there is not much point in having a miserable 3 weeks settling into nursery and then a big switch to school. Maybe setup a routine at home with plenty of visits to the library to get books about 'starting school' (if they are open).

@Aurorie11 @parietal thank you for replies. I’m paying weekly at the moment.
It’s an independent nursery but a few children from nursery going to the same school in September, just thought all this might help.
Some days she cries (last couple weeks or so) just not wanting to go, says some children playing too rough, says she’s bored at nursery. Then this morning she’s woken up asking when are we going to nursery?
I do think she misses her little friends but I think she wants to be home with us.
I’ve got a meeting with nursery. I may say if she’s this upset I’ll keep her home. I’m more than happy planning activities at home and park adventures and days out. Just thought playing with kids her age helps with her development and she’s not just seeing me and her little brother.

Maybe I’m over worrying about Reception, maybe she’ll bounce in on her first day all excited and ready!

Thank you for listening.