Single parent, and really low...

[Emanddaisy]

Hi all...

I'm a single parent to my 1 year old daughter. Since finding out I was expecting, I've done it alone. My ex just wasn't interested.
But, he died in february- COVID-19 got him, aged 38.
I adore being a mummy to my little girl. She is my universe. But, I'm struggling mentally. I don't want to be the mum who's always crying, and irritable. I don't know any other mums, and have been going to soft play with my daughter so she can play and socialise. But, a lot of mum and baby groups are full- so we can't go.

Feeling pretty low and alone...anyone else feel like that? Or have any tips on getting over tough times? Thank you xx

Do you have a Children's Centre near you?

www.gov.uk/find-sure-start-childrens-centre

They often run stay and play sessions.

Oh hun... I couldn't even imagine. I don't have any advise per say but I'm always happy for a chat :) I have a 3 year old son x

Oh that sounds so difficult, my ex isn’t involved at all but it’s not the same thing really, I can’t even imagine how you must feel, I don’t know if it’s any help but there are apps for meeting single parents (frolo is one of them) I haven’t used them personally so no direct experience but have heard of people meeting mum friends that way

If there is a children's centre they might have stay & play sessions now - the staff might be able to secure you a place. They also have staff there to support parents (I discovered).

It really is no comfort now but you will have such a close relationship with your dc & honestly you will find it easier over time xx

I’m so sorry, that’s really hard that your ex died, even if he wasn’t interested in parenting, it gives a finality to it, and it’s understandable you’re feeling low. Single parenting is also really hard work. My DC’s dad has very high risk of cancer recurrence which would be terminal, and I’m facing likelihood of doing it completely solo and them not having a Dad. I absolutely know what you mean about not wanting to be irritable, and then feeling bad that you are.

Always happy for a chat, too.

See as much of friends, whether or not they have kids, as you can. They can come to you in the eve. You need the chance to chat.

Covid has made it very hard with babies/toddlers . A lot of children’s centres closed under the Tories but some family centres and community centres have sessions. I agree a chat to your health visitor might help — she could signpost you to things, maybe.

Sending hugs.