Ive been having alot of trouble with my 14 year old son answering back and arguing with me and younger siblings.
Ive got lots of past threads about past behaviours.
About nearly a year ago, my child started to text his father whenever i said something that ds didnt like, like saying no to giving him money for fortnight etc.
My childs behaviour has got worse and texting his dad when hes not happy has recently become a nightly thing.
When his father has got involved i thought he sounded supported on the phone but its actually got worse over the last year.
He says one thing to ds on the phone then says something completely different to ds when hes at his house.
This past week after a recent conversation with his father over text he basically said its all my fault my sons behaviour is bad and he doesnt agree with me when taking devices off them and i told him we need to be on the same page and that once when ds has rang his father and goes to his, in the words of his siblings "gets spoiled" every meal is a takeaway. His father said thats what normal life is like at his and i said takeaway here is seen as a treat.
He said that I blaming him, i said i wasnt and that we bout need to meet in the middle and my ds behaviour is both of us.
Anyway he got personal and said im left to deal with his behaviour on my own.
When ds returned from his last contact he told me that his father spoke to him about the messages. I told my ds that that was a conversation between me and his father and that i dont want him to be involved so please dont tell me what your dad said.
He then followed me round the house and said that i need to tell you your wrong and dad said takeaway at his is normally life and i cant take his phone off him as his dad brought him it and if my ds wants to he can talk to him anytime he can.
So the point of this post is how can parent my child who has turned into a mini ex husband telling me how to parent him.
He dosent see anything wrong with his behaviour.