Finding love again

[whoruntheworld9]

Hi ladies. I’m a single mama with a 10mo - father isn’t involved at all (totally fine). I live 70miles away from my family so we’re pretty isolated.

It’s not that I feel ready to meet someone yet... but that even when I am, I don’t actually think anyone would be interested in an overweight, single mum to a disabled child.

I don’t feel confident, I don’t feel sexy, I don’t feel loveable. Granted, I won’t meet someone as long as I feel that way.

I’ve been burnt so many times. It’s left me with no confidence.

I’ve noticed that I only go looking for a relationship when I’m in a bad place, thus leaving me vulnerable to choosing shit men.

Single mums, what were your experiences finding love after children? I’d love to get married and have more children one day.

There’s no rush, I’ve been single almost 5 years 😂

I think you have to get yourself in a good place first. I took years and then started dating when I thought I was ready and realised that although I was mostly ready I still had some demons (abusive exes do that to you) and so had some counselling that definitely helped me.

If you’re feeling unworthy and as if you and your daughter won’t benefit someone’s life, then you’re definitely not yet ready to date. If you can, seek counselling and do anything else you can to build yourself up to a point where you are happy and in control of your life without a relationship and then start dating.