£40 a month on a 30 k salary? You're having a laugh,ain't ya?(rant warning!)

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I am soo fuming right now,argh!
The ex came round to see our child this eve,should have been round at 5 pm,turned up at 8 pm (when she should have been in bed!)

I told him that he needs to give me some money towards her upkeep,how much was he willing to give? Just 40 quid a month,on a 30 k salary!
So I told him that then he'd have to take her out and get her some clothes etc as well when she needs them.as I have been spending a sml fortune on just that over the last few months.
But nope-I have spent 70 quid on shoes for her this year! If you want me to get her any clothes then you'll have to go halves!(what?he earns 11 grand more than me a year,and his outgoings are about the same as mine,so it doesn't take a genius to work out who's better off)

Then after he left he sent me a txt that wound me up no end,being really arsey about it all,and told me he expected half of the money for the xmas presents he bought her (from him),etc etc etc,god!!!
He winds me up no end,I am not at all well off,and it's like he doesn't give a monkey about his kid.
I know he goes out about 3 times a week,and spends about 50 quid a time,he goes to fancy restaurants,buts flashy clothes and shoes,all me,me,me,so what about his child then? I wish I could shake some sense into this prat!

My exH earns around £150 a week and gives me £60 a month, so £40 is just ridiculous, definitely send him the csa calculator, so he can see what a reasonable starting point is

yes i dont actually agree a man should pay 50% of his salary, but my ex has offered to, and it was his idea to give me that much so we could use it to pay our mortgage. He lives with his pregnant girlfriend and his mum,all of them live in his mum's home so we can keep our house.

More fool him for getting someone pregnant and moving out!

Totally agree that the CSA are a useless bunch!!!!

My ex was at one point earning about a £120k a year (before tax granted but still a whopping amount)and giving me more than enough cash towards upkeep of ds.

But once he realised that I wasn't in fact going to take him back (due to him being a complete and utter two-timing twat) he started to get stingier and stingier until I went to the CSA. BIG MISTAKE!!!

Because he is self-employed he has managed to lie completely about what he earns and I now get the measly amount of £30 a week.

The CSA seem to think he earns less than me (yeah right, I was driving a punto at the time and he a Saab convertible)

BTW, this was a couple of years ago, are CSA supposed to review this from time to time does anyone know?

Vitalite, I think you need to ask them if you want a review...

Yes, you do have to ask them....and then they don't do it IME. I asked the CSA to review over a year ago having never had a review in 5 years. They wrote to exh and he just ignored the letters. I would ring the CSA periodically to see what was happening and they would apologise for not chasing him and say they would write to him again. Last month I had a letter from them saying they weren't carrying on with the review as I hadn't provided them with the info they requested. Their incompentence knows no bounds IME.

I gave up and while he's willing to pay for school trips and gives me half towards uniform costs, I don't rock the boat.

I can manage with what I get from him but if I couldn't I would be ringing the CSA every day hassling them.