Just need a "it'll be ok"

[ImOntheEdge]

I just need to rant, to people who don't know me and aren't biased or involved.

Single parent to 4 dc. All of whom are absolute nightmares. Preteens to toddlers. I try so hard to just push through every day but I just feel like I can't. I cry almost daily from so much stress from the kids misbehaving, money, having what feels like no free time.

I know it'll get better one day. I know it won't always be this was. I know tomorrow is a new day. I know all the cliches. But today I just want to rant to a room full of strangers and tell them... today I am just not ok and I don't want to parent anymore

💐💐💐 I hear you, OP. I won’t repeat those cliches. It will be OK. It’s OK to feel not OK.

Thank you

I’m a single parent to one little angel but I feel like this some days. You are not alone. Are you absolutely sure you don’t have depression of any sort? Will make things even harder for you. You would have thought of this I am sure, but can the elder not look after the younger ones occasionally even if all you do is have a nice long bath?

I do have some depression, I've been on some bee tablets for a couple of weeks so hopefully they will kick in soon. My eldest is a lazy turd and asking her to do anything is pointless! It's just been a strange and stressful year (full everyone I know that!) I have been furloughed for most of it, my relationship broke down and I've just spent the whole year feeling so alone! I have amazing family and friends who do so much to try and help. But sometimes it's just not enough and crying isn't helping! It's just one of those days today where nothing goes right and I nothing is making me feel any better!

Meant to say new tablets!

Put small ones in bed and lock yourself in somewhere if possible. Bathroom or bedroom. Put headphones in and listen to something from your teenage years!

It will get better. Spend the weekend ignoring any housework that's not essential. Take little ones out somewhere into the fresh air.

Good luck!

I hear you OP. Sometimes it really is just a load of shit

I have struggled with parenting a few times, I have been a single parent to 2 boys and then a parent to 2 babies and 2 teenagers at the same time and there were many times when I just wanted to run away or go to sleep and not wake up. It passes, do what ever you need to, to get you through but it's OK to feel like you have had enough 💐💐

@Blackopal

I hear you OP. Sometimes it really is just a load of shit

Couldn't of said it better tbh!

Sorry to hear how you're feeling @ImOntheEdge
I only have one DC and often feel like this so I've got no idea how you do it!!

Your doing amazing and need to be kinder to yourself! It's hard but you're doing it and it will get easier!

I’m a lone parent to 4 as well op. It’s extremely hard, mine are 10 and under. Ex not involved. Some days I’m just about surviving. I don’t find many other parents with 4 or more so find it extremely lonely.

I was wondering what bee tablets were!! It’s ok to feel burnt out. Well, it’s not ok for you, I mean it as in, i would also feel burnt out in your position. Do you have any time to yourself?

@Happycat1212

I’m a lone parent to 4 as well op. It’s extremely hard, mine are 10 and under. Ex not involved. Some days I’m just about surviving. I don’t find many other parents with 4 or more so find it extremely lonely.

Mine are 11-3. All the best ages haha. I have a lot of friends with 4 or more but I am the only one who is a single parent. It's just so draining! Emotionally physically and mentally!

@SwanShaped

I was wondering what bee tablets were!! It’s ok to feel burnt out. Well, it’s not ok for you, I mean it as in, i would also feel burnt out in your position. Do you have any time to yourself?

I get Saturdays free for a bit and if I'm not working while my youngest is at nursery. Problem is I spend that time studying, cleaning, food shopping. None of the fun stuff!

Be kind to yourself. Here is a really great place to vent and get support.
Are weekends harder because they’re all at home?
Take one day at a time, break it into small sections, hour by hour. You’ve got this.

Please ignore last lot of gibberish, no idea what occurred there.

So: I could not do what you do on a daily basis. If all you do to let off steam is come on here and rant, I think you are a very rare person indeed.
No, it won’t always be this way and you will in time forget the rough days (weeks, months, years). Your kids won’t though, they’ll be forefront in their memories. As they grow, they’ll appreciate more and more what you did for them, on your own, and you will become a cherished, valued friend and probably grandmother. They’ll appreciate you incrementally as they go through life. They really will, try to hang on to that at difficult times. X

Do the vaccines work against the Indian one? My sister has just called to say they've set up a mobile testing centre as they've got it in her postcode.

Sending love OP. I'm a single parent to one DC and it's tough enough doing that and juggling work and house. You are amazing and deserve

Oh good grief, ignore that last bit about vaccines too: phones being stupid tonight (or maybe I am (

Didn't mean to put the biscuit have some and instead

Thank you everyone! It comes in waves tbh. Evenings are rubbish for being lonely, but I'm getting more used to my own company. I think once everywhere is open and life gets a bit more normal, I can go out have a drink and let my hair down for just one night. Soon 🤞🏻

Sounds tough. It’s been a shit year anyway. It’ll be great when things are open again to be able to go sand have some fun. This year had been severely lacking in fun! It might just be a bit of a boost for you. Don’t do what I did last year though, got totally carried away and was puking all the next day! Haven’t done that for so many years.

I feel you op

I was a single parent but only to one from birth to six and that was hard enough trying to hold down a career that I was building as well as keeping everything spinning in the right direction.
I remember it well.

Not been a single parent for years now but have two dds a tween and teen at home and a dh that works permanent nights so the evenings are lonely at times here Aswell.

I am giving you and because you absolutely deserve it for dealing with lockdown,a relationship breakdown a house to run and 4 dc all in one go.

You lady are a legend

OP I am a lone parent to one (sometimes lazy sh*t) teenager which stresses me out sometimes so if you're managing 4 you're already my hero. Be kind to yourself. However bad a day you're having congratulate yourself for the achievement of keeping 4 children alive and fed.

As soon as everywhere is a bit more open, taking the kids out, maybe even a night out for me(!!) and just getting a bit of sun... maybe it'll feel better. In the meantime I'll remember being called a legend. That feels pretty great!

I have so much respect for you op. Parenting is hard and shit and a bloody thankless task a lot of the time. Rant away. I hope tomorrow is better for you x