family contact

[pocket23]

my son does not see his dad, his dads choice. however the rest of family want contact with my son. i find this hurt and want to protect my son from getting hurt and feeling unwanted by his dad.

i understand that believe me but it is not his families fault and you are potentially depricing your son of lots of people who love him and want him by stopping them. His dad made the choice not them and i really think that your son would miss out, unless they are really awful or criminal or likely to hurt him. Were you planning to lie to your son? If so trust me not a good plan. My sons dad has just walked into his life after three years and the family are close behind. believe me they can change thier minds whenever they want and you can do nothing so best be upfront and let his father explain his actions himself.

let your son see his family, im sure it will beneficial to him to have another nanny, and uncles, aunties and cousins in his life.

I wish my ex's family wanted to see DD. It hurts that they want nothing to do with her. I'd definitely let your DS see them as they are still his family.

Have you met your ex's family? If you havent and are worried what they are like could you meet up for a coffie somewhere neuteral with them without DS first, (if you can get someone to look after him for a couple of hours), and talk to them about what sort of contact they want and what sort of contact you think is appropriate. Then you could start off by meeting up at a soft play or park of whatever with you present at first and then move on to them taking DS out or to their house for short visits if everything is ok and you are happy with that. It also depends on the age of your DS obviously what sort of contact is appropriate.