Feel like a crap mum !

[lollipoprainbow]

Another morning of getting into work feeling like a wrung out dishcloth!! I'm a single working mum and my dd 9 is such hard work (through no fault of her own she has suspected autism) and refuses to get dressed for school in the mornings so I'm racing round getting myself ready as well as her and end up leaving the house in a tip just to get out the door in time for work and school. I feel like such a failure as a mum.

No advice but same! My daughter has autism and is 10, she can’t get dressed in the mornings either so they are a nightmare as I have 3 other children as well (younger) just seen that George Asda have made some special needs uniform, might make things a bit easier? Totally feel your pain though you’re not a failure at all

Getting to school and work on time is a win....my flat looks like the Marie Celeste when we leave. The mess is still there when I get back and can get sorted then.

Getting out the door is a task in itself.
Do you get up earlier than DD so you can have time to sort yourself before her?
No ones house is tidy on a morning I wouldn’t worry.
Don’t be hard on yourself

Although your DDs suspected autism might make the mornings more difficult I don’t think your alone in this. So many moms spend the mornings shouting and dragging their children out of bed. Speeding to school and work arriving to work late and disheveled whilst the house is left in a shot top. Mummy vloggers and instaparents is not real life

Leobynature very true. School runs are a nightmare for most people, even my NT children require a lot of help and prompting in the mornings 😬

God im dreading it.. I start a full time office based role in a hospital in a few weeks and I'm a single parent.. I've only ever worked from home as a single parent... I'm dreading the morning rush 😭

@Pebbledashery I work in an office in a hospital too !! It's just about being organised I guess and I'm not

I think you sound like an amazing mum. Despite all the challenges, you're managing to get yourself to work and your daughter to school. Job done. A messy house is inevitable and does not make you a "failure" at all.

@lollipoprainbow snap hehe
What can I expect... I'm going into a band 5 EA role..
Do you have option of getting up a bit earlier to just get ready in peace.. That's what im planning on trying to do...

@Millie2008

I think you sound like an amazing mum. Despite all the challenges, you're managing to get yourself to work and your daughter to school. Job done. A messy house is inevitable and does not make you a "failure" at all.

Agreed 100 %

@Millie2008 thank you

@Pebbledashery yes I get up before her mainly because she hates getting up and loves her bed! I get ready before her then have to get her ready, would be much easier all round if she got ready herself to give me time to do a quick tidy up! Good luck with the new job x

The only thing that worked for me was not even trying cleaning when I was tired. Just go to bed as early as she let you, and do tidy up after you get ready and before she wakes up.

If you do 20 minutes everyday the house would look perfect every day when you come from work, you just need to tidy her room and do the deep cleaning (vacuum cleaning, moping, dusting and proper wash of the bathroom) once a week.

And remember, good enough is good enough.

You're doing great. I'm quite organised and honestly don't think it has anything to do with being organised. I feel like I'm getting it wrong most mornings too. I end up making sure I pick things up around the house and dump it all in my bedroom, shut the door and get on with life. I sort it out when I can get to it. I've ignore the piles and piles of things that needed to be put away all week in my bedroom because it's been hectic. But I've prioritised the rest of the house looking normal and spending my free time with my DC. I've gone to bed as early as they've let me, like another poster mentioned.

Honestly, you're doing great. Don't beat yourself up! You're absolutely Not a failure