Holiday contact

[coco55]

I share a DC with my ex, it's fairly amicable between us. I asked him last week whether he was planning on having DC any of the 6 week summer holiday. He said yes but wasn't sure which week so would get back to me about possibilities.

He has got in touch this morning to say that he has booked x week off work. Now although I appreciate him taking the week off, I was under the impression that there would be some kind of discussion as to which week it would be. My DP is also having his DC for a week in the summer and we wanted to try and co ordinate so that we had the same weeks. This would mean I wouldn't have mine when he has his.

Would it be unreasonable for me to go back to my ex and said that that week doesn't work for me? Of course if that's the only week he can get off then fair enough, but I'm fairly sure it wouldn't be. I'm not sure whether I have any right to be a little annoyed or not!

I don't think there is any harm in asking if there is some flexibility in the week he can have off. He can only say no.

Why didn't you tell him in the initial conversation that X week wouldn't work for you? He told you he was going to look into it...if he had of known then that you already had plans for that week then he could work around it.

What I see here is that you want him to discuss the week he wants but you didn't feel the need to discuss the week you wanted? I don't get it.

Of course you can always message back to say that you should have said but you had made plans for that week already, is there any chance he could change his week

I don't think YABU. Why does he get to call the shots and pick the week? It should be mutually agreed