How many times has your childcare arrangements changed?

[november90]

I'm getting fed up of my ex being so unstable. In the past year he's had 4 different jobs which have threatened our arrangement for our 2 children. If the days themselves haven't changed there's been talk of it so basically for the past year I've just not felt settled. He's just accepted his 4th job so we've had to change our arrangements again and also change nursery for our eldest. He's had to reduce his time with him slightly due to his new hours but suggested in 6 months or so he may be able to reduce his hours slightly so he can see him more and there be yet another change!!! I'm getting fed up of this now. I want to be flexible to suit lifestyle changes as I would want/hope for the same if my job changed... but at the same time it's unfair for one parent to keep accepting jobs that don't suit the arrangement and expecting change all the time.... isn't it? I just want to feel settled and be able to plan my life and get in a solid routine! Am I being unreasonable?
I've suggested EOW but he doesn't wish to go down this road whilst they're still young 🤷🏼‍♀️

Anyone? :) am I being unreasonable?

You're not being unreasonable. With little ones especially, stability is so important. The odd ad-hoc change here/there is fine but endless changes are not. FWIW eow isn't necessarily as easy as it sounds... my ex has endlessly changed this arrangement week to week, cancelled, wanted more / wanted less, different times, different pick-up, flexibility to have my weekends due to , agreed changes with a 5 year old who then tells me etc etc

Co-parenting only works when both parties focus on the children and consider each others needs..