How much maintence do you receive from your ex?& How often does he see the dcs?

[allgonebellyup]

Sorry, this has probably been done a hundred times before..
i have 2 ex partners now, one is my dd's father and the other is my son's father.

Dd sees her dad one sunday every fortnight,more in hols, and he pays us £250 a month.

Ds's father has him (and dd sometimes)every single fri night til sunday night, and sometimes one evening in the week. He pays £450 a month.

Does all this sound reasonable?

I know for a fact my exh has lied.

I claim IS anyways, but the current assesment is £16 per week for both dcs. The csa told me, exh had told them he has dcs for 104 nights a year....

Ask my kids and they'll say about 25.
The jobcentre states that when I go back to work, most of my income should be made up of wages, tax credits and maintenance!

Can I change the assesment even after 5yrs of exhs lies?

When we first divorced, he used to pay me £75 a WEEK

my dd is now just 1 year old and i have probably had £50 from ex over the whole year, the csa are now chasing him for money as i have gone back to work now after mat leave ended and he told me they are going to take £60 a week out which is still a good deal for him i think! the only thing is i am yet to receive a penny of this money yet the ex says that £150 came out of his paypacket 3 weeks ago? does that sound right for the csa to be that long! also £700 is very generous!

Mamazon, we are in a similar boat and I'm dreading the day he gets in touch demanding to see ds...I am not sure whether to try and prevent access or not, I would be in meltdown if they went to court which would not be good for my boys - yet letting him near the baby would also make me very stressed.
I did arrange a visit with him when LO was 2 weeks old, but he never turned up and hasn't called since. I don't know why. I heard though the other day that his father has died and I don't know if this was somehow connected, mind you LO is 5 months old now.
I am dreading Christmas in case he uses it as an excuse to try again...he'll use anything as an excuse for his behaviour, so will doubtless pull out the sympathy card about his dad - give me strength! (That was why he was abusive apparently - his dad was ill, his son was leaving home, his toaster was broken etc etc... yes I'm sure that would make me into a manipulative b*tch as well not that I wasn't sorry about his dad)
One thing keeping me sane is that he is a tight bastard, and if he wants access I shall make it abundantly clear that I will tell the CSA who he is and they will make him pay. I am hoping that might put him off a bit...I only held off because I knew them contacting him would start it all over again. And if he gets in touch anyway I may as well grab my £10 bonus, lololol

ex has never given a penny nor seen ds since he was a baby. ds is 11 now

Ex sees dd fortnightly and hols but pays no child support. CSA doing nothing to help my dd get the support she is entitled to.

DH biological father now pays £135 a month CSA but there's never been ANY contact in 12 yrs and I never recieved a penny in 11yrs.I pestered CSA until they found him,I also took him to court after he refuse to declare parentage and flatly refused the DNA tests..a8sehole is a understatement!

DH..!? I meant DD

Ex doesn't pay a penny towrds DS and no contact, not even birthday cards

It is his loss though, not DS's!

Nothing at all

Never sees his son

Never sees his son

Nothing, and never. I'm just glad I never have to deal with him again. Hey, with any luck, he might be dead.

None, and he sees them every day.

CSA have not managed to get their act together, and I have told him he is not to give me any money in case I get accused of benefit fraud.

CSA know where he lives, where he works, I have put him on the phone to them myself and he has told them, but they haven't managed anything in 9 months!

I definately want them to sort it out, I don't want a private arrangement with him, he's never stuck to a financial promise in his life.

I only get 40 quid a month,so you're definetly getting a v good deal indeed.

nothing for the last three years for three dc's and now £40 a month. if he doesn't spend it on cider.

ex H pays £300 a month towards our two boys, and sees them a good couple of times a week.

xp paid nothing and told me to get the CSA onto him to assess him. They gave him a nil assessment - despite him having loads of assets. The CSA then reassessed him when I put the same information on a different form (which obviously I would have done at the beginning if they had told me to) and xp had to pay £71 per week. Xp then appealed and now has to pay £30 per week. I have now appealed - it is going to tribunal - but should be in my favour though the CSA 'can't' tell me the figure yet. Xp has our 21 month old ds 2 nights a week and is taking me to court for more access. I am not on legal aid. All horrible - he is a control freak.

XP pays me £12 a week - sometimes! He works full time, lives in a bedsit, has no car, no new family yet some weeks he cant afford the £12

He only sees dd when he can be bothered , he messes her about all the time and also doesnt buy her birthday or christmas presents (because he cant afford to do this AND pay me maintenance aswell ). During the 6 weeks school holidays this summer, she never saw him once.

And she still thinks the sun shines out of his backside