During lockdown everything has been rubbish. It’s affected us all in different, difficult ways.
My son lives with my ex Mon-Fri.
They were ‘doing’ distance learning ‘together’.
I felt this was to a very poor standard and he needed some help.
I tried to give this remotely.
He didn’t like the extra adult pushing him.
My ex backed him up.
They recovered it for a bit and then it slipped again.
Through that, my ex stopped communicating with me.
My son then also stopped communicating with me.
I’m currently told that I can see him if I come pick him up and take him back again but that he’ll stop communicating with me again if I tell him off or talk about school work with him.
This doesn’t seem right. It seems/feels like I’m being allowed to parent if I do it all on my their terms. It looks like I’m being allowed to be a baby sitter but not a parent.
What do people think?
Something nags at me telling me that he shouldn’t suffer not having a parent and I shouldn’t allow any stubbornness on my part to make that happen, but I also need to be able to be his parent without having such restrictions put on me.
Yes there are far far more details to this story that I can provide if you want them, but those are the basics for this scenario.