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madameMscastle · 19/03/2021 18:28

I know its something little but this has really upset me, my children have gone to their fathers this evening and i asked my eldest to take a coat, as hes going out the door, im at the door and take it of the peg and go to pass it to him and hes gone to the car (i have a front garden ) he gets near the car and looks at me standing at the doorstep holding his coat, he runs back and says i dont need it, i have one at dads, i say to him can you take it please as your just in shorts and tshirt, he takes it off me and throws it back and runs to the car door and my ex winds down his window and says whats up? i say his coat, he says he doesnt need it i have one.
i say but ive just asked him to take it.
then my ex says im not waiting here all night and drives off.

Its a 45min drive away so what happens if they break down, my child will be cold!
they have clothes at their dads doesnt mean i send them naked!

Its not really about the coat its that i asked my son to do something and he said no, then his dad not only doesnt agree with me but drives off in a rush!

One side i think i should have left it, my son no. let him freeze.
Another side is that i feel my ex should have said just said to my child take it, knowing it will just sit in the car well all weekend.

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Givemeabreak88 · 19/03/2021 18:30

How old is your son?

TheWaif · 19/03/2021 18:30

Yeah, but he had one at his dad's, so it was all a bit pointless really.

Lentillover1900 · 19/03/2021 18:31

Op I’m a single parent

Fgs pick your battles
This created unnecessary tension just as he’s heading off with his father.

Rtmhwales · 19/03/2021 18:42

Honestly this sounds like such a non issue. If the car breaks down surely dad will just give your DS his own coat. He had a coat at his dad's. You said he went in shorts? Surely that battle would've made more sense to pick than over the coat if you're that worried.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 19/03/2021 18:53

Depending on how old your son is I'd be tempted to let him learn his own lesson. If he gets cold he'll remember his coat next time.

madameMscastle · 19/03/2021 18:57

He 13, the shorts have been long time issue as son is bigger built and short for his age, and every jeans, jogging bottoms i buy doesnt feel comfortable and he perfers shorts.

Lots of picking battles at the moments and i always pick the wrong ones!

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May17th · 19/03/2021 18:58

@HollyBollyBooBoo

Depending on how old your son is I'd be tempted to let him learn his own lesson. If he gets cold he'll remember his coat next time.
This. Don’t stress yourself OP. Honestly is it worth it really.
Givemeabreak88 · 19/03/2021 19:00

Oh if he’s 13 then I would leave him to it I was thinking he was 7 or something

HamFisted · 19/03/2021 19:00

At 13, if he says he doesn't need a coat just shrug and hang it back up. He's old enough to decide for himself.

Theunamedcat · 19/03/2021 19:00

Let him get cold the disrespectful attitude backed up by dad is that normal?

TheWaif · 19/03/2021 19:02

@Theunamedcat

Let him get cold the disrespectful attitude backed up by dad is that normal?
She can hardly police what her ex does.
Lessthanaballpark · 19/03/2021 19:04

I think you’re feeling stressed because of wider things but I wouldn’t get wound up about this time.

Theunamedcat · 19/03/2021 20:02

@TheWaif

No but if its an expected reaction from him I would change my interactions with him

RedGoldAndGreene · 19/03/2021 20:03

If he's 13 and cold then he can ask his dad to turn the heater on. I have a son the same age, he's only just started taking an umbrella just in case it rains and that's because he's come home drenched.

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