Child maintinence

[Crazymumz]

A quick question. If you have a private agreement for maintinence what time does your child/children's father transfer it on the agreed date?. Is it morning or afternoon or is there no set time?. I've asked numerous times for him to do it via standing order but he likes to wait until I have to ask him for it and would wait until 11 at night until I text him about it. I have to keep on his back about it all the time and I'm sick of it but at the same time I'm not letting him away with it.

And he basically told me today he will do it when he decides to.

Set up your arrangement through CSA?

Standing orders are the best but I presume he enjoys the 'control' elemental making you ask, my ex is the same but he blames the bank for it which I know isn't true as standing orders would come out on a morning or if there's insufficient funds could be the afternoon.

You could apply for a payment taking straight from his earnings but that would mean both you and he pay a fee so you end up with less money and it takes time to set up a court order to deduct direct from earnings and even this isn't fool proof if his employer doesn't submit earnings promptly.

Honestly if it’s the same day I would really just grin and bare it, pick your battles, this is not one of them, it’s the same day.

That's a control move. My partner works nights and transfers his at 12am every payday so it's in for the morning and no messing around.

You have a right to not be begging for this money!

Standing Order here so whatever time the bank moves the money.

Just be glad he pays it, CMS have had a claim for 3 years open, they know his employer and haven't received a penny. CMS are useless.

If you don't message him... does he pay because if so leave it he is enjoying the game.

Leave it til the day after it's due and say "I notice you didn't pay so I will contact the CMS "

I'm guessing he'll pay and you didn't have to ASK

Do that every month

Hi everyone thanks for the responses. He wouldn't pay it until I asked. He's been lying about working for the last 3 months and I haven't had a penny off him but he got caught out and I told him I was contacting cms. He then agreed last Monday he would set up a standing order for it to go in every Friday and stick to a private arrangement. Then Friday came and nothing went it so I text in the afternoon and he told me he couldn't set it up until he went home work and did it on his laptop which is probably lies because he used to be able to do it on his phone so he was just basically wanting the control of me having to ask and making me 'wait' because he's angry i caught him out that he was working. He also told me he didn't say it would go in Friday morning he just said Friday and I said well you told me you were setting up a standing order so when nothing went in the bank I wasn't being unreasonable to ask what was happening and if he had set it up and that he had a full week to do it. He never replied. I will be claiming cms if it continues. He pays a pittance as it is and still doesn't want to pay and plays these games. Will see what happens Friday coming.

Honestly I would go to the Cms . It takes the communication and power out of the situation. .

CMS. don't let him keep messing you about. It is about controlling you. He will kick off because he wants you phoning and asking. So he can say she is always asking for money.

You can start with direct pay. And if he messes you about just call them and go collect and pay. This will on start on the date you make the call.

Go to CMS, even if you get a bit less the fact you're nor having to ask will be more than worth it.