my exp

[mandajane2004]

text me last night and said "so you not talking to me now then?thats fine, I will see you when I see you then" wouldnt mind but I had text him at 10am and asked if he was coming to see ds or not!!Today he is ignoring my calls and texts.He has been promising to come see ds for about 4 weeks and hasnt bothered.I just want to ring his neck right now grr...I am so angry with him for messing us about but nothing i say to him seems to make him realise.

Don't bother with him manda. If he can't be bothered to spend time with his own son what good is he going to be for him? I would get on with my own life and wait for him to make the effort to organise contact.

agree with anorak. just ignore him, if you keep contacting him then it's like you're giving him "power and control" over the situation. it's like that with my exp and i just dont bother contacting him unless its too do with dd

Mandajane, I'd second (or third!) what anorak and tammybear are saying - just don't give him the power to invade your brainspace. Free you brain up for something more worthwhile.

Go out and have a great weekend the two of you and delete that phone number off your mobile once and for all (ok, so maybe write it down somewhere else for an emergency but YKWIM).

thanks a lot.I am not texting him anymore unless he texts me and makes the effort.ds doesnt really know who he is anyway to be honest not like he gonna miss him if he never sees him again

good good. ive learnt not to let exp wind me up (or at least not show that he does!) my dd doesnt miss him as she hardly knows him, and is a very happy child so its not as if she is missing anything just because hes not around. just get in contact if its an emergency, or if he asks over ds. anything else just ignore.

well ive got two useless ex's too. ds's dad cant be bothered most of the time and dd's dad has not ever seen her despite my begging. i would say ds's dad annoys me the most as we were together a decent time and our son was planned. he also spent a year and a half with him before he left. but bugger it....he winds me up a lot but the next day its forgotten because he isnt worth my time and energy. trying to make him realise is like banging my head against a brick wall so i just sit secure in the knowledge that one day he will regret it...(and i know him and know that he will) its easy now to not let him get to me.