I’m not sure it’s even good enough. Ex has or but not bio dad and I have to two other kids, it was granted when I fled him mainly EA and also threats to myself. I’m getting really concerned that he tells my eldest I used to do stuff to her, bad mouths me and his mother as well. She also told my daughter she has a video of my mum beating her 😳
Here is the thing they have a history of this. I can’t explain it but her other kids have no or very low contact moved away far away well. They don’t speak to my ex much either. It’s his behaviour , very covert but bulling, Turin to aggression if you dare speak up.
Ex is charming , Disney dad and buying stuff etc but underneath it he scares me psychologically because it’s all emotional with him but no proof as I found out through courts. Were not interested. If I try and talk or email him he twists it. Although I’ve asked not to and maybe co parent nicely and not children this.
If I restrict holidays as my daughter expressed that she doesn’t want to stay that long plus her behaviour coming back is not her. I know when my two youngest sons get older I will get the same. He accused me of alienation even though I’ve only asked to reduce holidays as it’s my daughter asking and she does have to good reason emotionally but again hard to proof his type of EA but it does have affect.
Would you not let her go holidays and let him seek advice? She said weekends are not long and can do it so that’s fine. I think it’s holidays that him and his mum have more time to make stuff up.
Any advice ? Or just ask him again to not do it and leave it