internet dating HELP REQUIRED (PLEASE)

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decided (spurred on by other messages here) to go for it - so.... help/advice required to some up with gorgeous witty message to reel the fab men in... i in your hands

short not over witty message, plus photo of you smiling or laughing, or not looking at camera to add hint of mystery. talk abt what things u like to do with some specifics, eg reading, have recently read xxx by yyy.
they'll be attracted more to the photo than the message, as men are very visual.
dp tells me it was a combination of the photo and the text.

Just to let you know...

Yahoo personals site is pretty good, as is www.datingdirect.com.
Someone also recommended the friends reunited dating site.

Happy hunting

subs do you fancy a pal to do it with, spur each other on and swap men if they don't suit?i need to take my mind off stuff and just do something shallow and stupid for a while. perhaps we have opposite taste which would be fantastic, i can have all your sloppy seconds.

Are any of you in London and feeling brave want to do speed dating?

I'm not in london but visit quite a lot and would love to do it not in my own city. I find the prospect of bumping into someone from the local bar quite embarassing. I think we should have a mumsnet speed dating meet up, but please lets not mention that at the time, we will sound like desperately lonely nutters

Desparate and lonely maybe but nutters? Never

I went thro the Mail (I think) dating agency site.. Your details are safe and there are loads of people to chat to as well as arrange to meet.

Ok, I have to admit that I was honest about myself, no frills or exaggerations. Be honest about the sort of fella you want to meet too. That way you won't get any time wasters or losers... hopefully.

Good luck and be careful.

I agree with jojo38 - you need to be honest about the person want to meet, and if you are looking for a serious relationship, say so as there seem to be a lot of men just looking for casual stuff. After a bit of trial and error and being contacted by completely unsuitable men (for me) I re-jigged my ad to give a reallly clear idea of what I did and didn't like - eg. prefer Sunday Times to Sunday People, Channel 4 to Channel 5, wine to beer etc. - this persuaded my "Mr Perfect" to get in touch and he is now DH. I also put a very smiley, natural photo on my ad. Be warned though - some men put very old photos on and are less than honest in their descriptions. Take time to get to know people via email first then move on to the phone if you want to before arranging to meet, and be careful. Good luck!

yeah i'm up for speed dating sounds like it could be a laugh

hey fairyfly and dillydally (and all...)
i in bristol but come to london quite regularly and would def be up for speed dating for fun!!! more entertaining to disect evening after! lets make a plan
xxx

I joined a number of dates that offer free 7 day service etc. Then open an email account that doesnt give away too much ie new hotmail for ex sassygal etc. In my profile i had to fill out i put in my email address very subtely ie.... Im a sassygal and you can chat me at the hotmail thing if you want!

This way you can get replys without having to pay for membership and can meet guys as well without it interfering with your normal email!

My noe dh and i joined the UDATE for the free trial and he emailed me str8 away and we now happily married! Just chat to the men for a few weeks (msn is gr8) and be honest in who you are and what you are looking for!

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