Contact when siblings are ill

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I was wondering what people's thoughts are on letting contact go ahead when there's sickness involved.

DD is due to go to her Dads this weekend but her half sister who lives there has just come down with a sickness bug. It looks like DD's Dad is still expecting DD to go for the weekend. Would you send her?

Yes - kids get sick/sniffles all the time and generally sickness bugs are 24 hours.

No. But I would offer an alternative time.

Coughs and colds yes sickness bugs no..

If I was in that position, no, I wouldn't let my child go. I know when any family members have had sickness bugs we avoid them for a week after to be on the safe side. Sickness bugs are pretty horrible so don't understand why the father is still pushing for the child to do. A little irresponsible if you ask me.

I would be asking him to swap contact time. It's silly to expose a child to a horrid sickness bug if it can be avoided.

Agree with @RandomMess

Yep I'd be asking to move the time too, I wouldn't risk my house coming down with it (badly emetophobic though so would probably take a harsher stance than some!)

I don't send and offer to swop times if a sickness bug. Ludicrous to subject a child to getting ill... let alone the rest of the household when they get back..

I’d swap for a sickness bug, not for a cold but sickness bug is awful for both kids and adults so it’s kinder for your DD not to go

Any sickness bugs/diarrhoea/etc we let the other parent know, and agree to swap contact time as neither house want to spread further. Normal cough/cold we wouldn’t change usually, unless DC particularly wanted eg to stay with mum, in which case again would swap for another day.

Colds and sniffles yes. Bugs and other viruses no.

Sorry but I don't believe in knowingly spreading illness and infections when contact can simply be changed.

In February my SD and her entire household (as well as uncles household - so they'd obviously been breaking covid rules) got covid. All tested and confirmed.

In the days running up to the weekend DHs ex told him that she and her partner had tested positive for covid, but SD could still come to us!

We went back and said "that's not the rules..we won't willingly have SD here when they are living with RP with covid".

She went mental and accused us of trying to have "a weekend off"...

Turns out, SD also had covid. Dhs ex knew she had tested positive too but wanted rid of SD for the weekend so she could be ill without having to look after SD too.

So no. No bugs at all. Other than sniffles!