Should I give it to Ds?

[Happycat1212]

My ds dad has sent him a birthday card and small gift through the post, he doesn’t have any contact with him (his choice) his birthday isn’t till the 10th of March and I’m torn on whether to give it to him or not? I don’t want to upset or confuse him but at the same time I don’t want to hide it from him. What’s the best thing to do in this situation?

How old is your DS and what does he know about his father?

I would probably give it to him to avoid the a "I sent you cards and presents every year! Did your mother not give them to you?" scenario.

Can you steam open the envelope on the card to make sure it doesn't say anything upsetting?

He’s 6, this is the first year he has sent anything so he can’t say he sent something every year, he’s dad has never been involved in his life for more than a few months a time. He disappears for years then pops up sees him for a few months then rinse and repeat. Ds doesn’t like his dad hence me not wanting to upset him.

I think I would say to him that daddy sent him something and give him the choice to open it or put it away for another time. I would be honest with him so he can never say you kept gifts from his dad from him.

I think I would say to him that daddy sent him something and give him the choice to open it or put it away for another time.

That's what I was thinking too. At 6 he should be able to cope with that (although obviously you know your DS the best, OP!). Maybe leave it til a few days after his birthday.