Ex and caring for our Dd

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My ex has overnight contact with our dd every other week for 2 nights, but each time she comes back she has painful nappy rash to the point of it bleeding (could be from her scratching) matted hair (it's very curly but fine). Poor DD also comes back constipated to the point her little belly is so distended and so thirsty.

My issue is contact is court ordered, don't think I can breach the order on the above and I have already brought these concerns to his attention but he does nothing, I've made suggestions etc but I'm just trying to cause issues.

Has anyone experience this? And what did you end up doing? Any advice would be appreciated.

Personally I would contact social services, that’s neglect.

Yep. Social services.

yes social services but also solicitor.

We never got to the court order part but I was told contact could be stopped due to safety risks.. so worth contacting for legal advice.

Thank you all.

@Starlightstarbright1 that's the thing I'm not sure if this would fall under safety risks. But worth a try as he just won't listen. Suggested nappy free time.. but that would mean cleaning up after any accidents. He gets freaked out by cleaning her nappy area too, well did when we were together, so do wonder if he isn't wiping her properly.. probably all of the above . DD also is been accessed for autism by camhs and isn't very verbal so wont let him know she needs to be changed.

He’s not fit to look after her clearly
If she is coming home dehydrated, a sore bottom etc time to act

You need to speak to someone. Maybe the gp first, if she has special needs and requires even more care than expected of her age (communication difficulty) it really needs to be addressed.

Start with health visitor?

How old is she? Poor little girl

How long does she stay with him? You say overnight- is that 36 hours eg 8am until 8pm the following day? Or 6pm until 11am the next day?

Sorry - you said 2 nights
That’s not good - your poor girl