New partner with criminal record

[OmicronPersei7]

I know you don't have any control over who your ex moves in. But let's say they have a drink driving conviction plus a conviction for verbally assaulting a police officer. Is this enough for you to say "yep, this person can't live with my kids" - genuinely terrified of how dangerous they might be. And they're driving my kids around.

What do you think? Do these convictions amount to violent past / violent convictions. Received a 10 week suspended sentence for them.

You literally cannot stop them being involved with people my ex was involved with someone who lost all there kids due to neglect over several years (had children lost them had more children lost them got them back lost them again had more children etc) children services said no but they would have been prepared for her to have contact with our children at a later date but ex kicked off at the social worker so she took a hard line on him telling him he hardly saw his kids and it wouldn't kill him to prioritise them for once honestly it went down rather badly he hardly saw the kids after that

My ex has several arrests too they still allow him to see his kids violence against children women etc still allowed to see them

Don’t want to go into too much detail, but I know someone who has a conviction for “battery” of police officer, I was there when the arrest was made, and was not actually the case AT ALL. Things are not always as they seem.

This person has children themselves, as does their partner, and there is absolutely no question what so ever as to wether they should be around the children.

To be honest they don't sound like the most delightful character but my feelings would depend on the circumstances.
If they're driving your children around then I would assume the driving ban was over so some time ago? Was the verbal abuse of a police officer at the same time so when drunk and being arrested for drink driving?

Ultimately though, as pp has said, you don't really get to say who your children come into contact with when with the other parent as much as they can't tell you who to have around your child.

Not saying its right or minimising but I don't think these offences would having a bearing on their suitability to be around children.

Thanks all. I suspected this would be the case. It just feels so unfair.

If it is any reassurance to you OP, these types of things would not necessarily be disclosed under DBS checks depending on the age of the conviction. So your DC teacher, childminder, nanny, nursery key worker could have done the same thing and you'd be none the wiser.

I don’t think that these convictions represent a person being “dangerous” to be honest. How bad was the drink drive? Whats the source if your info? And what exactly is the circs of the “verbal assault”?

Make a claires law application?

@BananaPop2020
Local news story was the source. They were 3.5 times over legal limit. Banned for several years but over now.
@nevernotstruggling - I did think about doing this.

So it sounds like you have Googled this new partner then. I really think you are worrying over nothing in respect of the drink drive at the very least. If this person has lawfully got their licence back, then they have as much right to it as the next person.

People are right about not knowing anyone’s past who is around your children, I know someone who is a teacher (family member) who was cautioned for assault, they still work as a teacher with children so you don’t know who you are having round your kids, are genuinely concerned or do you just not want your kids around the new partner? As long as their offence isn’t to kids then I think you need to let it go tbh

I would imagine the offences happened at the same time? For example the person was pulled for drunk driving and assaulted the police at this time verbally.

Personally whilst it’s not ideal I do think these offences don’t amount to anything major, having a bad day/bad time and things like this can happen, we all know we don’t make rational choices when drunk!

I know it’s not ideal, but I wouldn’t be concerned about this person being around children, for those offences, if it’s a one off and they don’t have strings of offences or anything more serious.