Please help with sleep

[Overrona21]

So I’m a single parent to a 10 month old. He’s never slept through and it’s really affecting me. I’m in bed for 8 every night and I get no time to myself. So we have a rough routine of
Wake up at 6
Milk
Playtime breakfast
Usually naps for about 45 mins at 9
Playtime and snack
Lunch at about 1ish
Milk
Then he has gotten into the habit of sleeping at like 4pm until like 6!

Then dinner, bath bottle bed for half 7

He’s then up every 2-3 hours for milk. I’ve tried weaning him off and giving him less milk but he just cries for more, I’ve tried giving him water, he was having none of it. We co sleep because it’s easier. The annoying thing is when he’s with his dad he will wake maybe once in the night. Please help, any advice would be appreciated

Well i am a single parent and my son just does not sleep at all he is 3 months old and it is the wrose thing ever i am told it will get better my son has reflux i dont know how i do it i just do x

Hopefully as he gets older it will not be so bad. For me personally nearly 11 months of interrupted sleep is taking its toll. I am exhausted. I don’t even have the energy to shower. It is hard and you do have to push through. I was hoping for some tips to get a tiny bit more sleep

I used this website for sleep advice www.whattoexpect.com/first-year/sleep/10-month-old-sleep-schedule/#training and found it really helpful. My now 10 month old generally sleeps through now and we followed their ferber method. Hope it helps!

What's the difference in routine between your house and dads?

Not a lot, he baths him in the morning I bath him at night. Erm roughly the same bedtime each night, he also seems to eat food more when he’s there. Not sure why. He hasn’t been much and the visits aren’t consistent so if anything I would expect him to be unsettled there

Hey I used the just chill baby sleep course by just chill mama off Instagram. I'd definitely recommend looking at it and seeing if it's for you.
My 9 month olds routines incase it helps is
Wake 7:30
Breakfast
Play
Sleep - 10 - 30 minutes
Lunch
Play
Sleep - 1:30 - 1 hour
Play
Tea
Play
Bed 6:45 -7 and sleeps solidly
He has no night feeds, no dummy but does sleep with a comforter and we don't do sleep, but did till 6 months.

It took a lot of tweeking with his routine and we had a lot of 5am wake up calls until he settled into this routine but this is working for him at the minute.

Co-sleep**

10 months is a sleep regression - my DS was chaotic at this age, after being reasonably OK from 6 months ish. I did often feed him at this stage, even though he’d previously slept through many times, because it was less stressful than him screaming for ages, and I figured that we would come out the other side at some point. It was hell when we were there though, and I really feel for you.

Sleeping 4-6pm isn’t great. Could you drop the morning snack, have lunch an hour earlier and see if he will nap 2-3ish? Then he has a fair amount of awake time before bed and might drop into a deeper sleep so you could get a better run of 4-5 hours?

His afternoon nap is really late, do you think you could bring it earlier? Say 2-4. And I just aimed to get as many calories in as possible during the day at that age! Think it went bf, breakfast, bf, nap, lunch, bf, tea, supper, bf, bed... I managed to night wean by then but I am with my DH so just sent him in. Hopefully another single mum will be along with a more helpful tip for you.

I had this - I stopped feeding milk at night from 9 months. Rock to sleep instead. The first night she was furious, but went to sleep eventually. After 2 nights she barely woke in the night again. Life changing!! Also it made daytime naps much better because she could get herself to sleep without milk. She then automatically adjusted her eating so she was having more during the day. Good luck! Happy mummy equals happy baby.

thank you everyone! He used to nap around 2-3ish but lately he just fights it. Today I put him down earlier and ‘forced’ him to sleep. He drinks more in the night than the day so I will try and swap that.

The only saving grace is that he self soothes and goes straight back to sleep. I’m going to try him on smaller amounts tonight. Fingers crossed

Hope tonight goes well x