Lonley

[Sunniwendy]

I am a single mum i have just had a little boy i have no family and i live in liverpool now so i have no suport at all i dont get 5 mins for myself as my son has colic and reflux and cause of the covid cant even do any groups or things it is really hard x

Hey you, I didn't want to read and run so hi
I'm a new mum too, how old is your LO?
I'm quite new to MN but there may be someone along soon to point you in the direction of some groups either on here or in the tinterweb that you can maybe join?
Im not on my own but I totally get the lonely bit, most of us do at the minute I expect but it won't be like this for you forever, I promise.
I bet you're doing a fab job even though it probably doesn't feel like it at the minute.
Maybe your area has some baby groups that have since gone on line? If there isn't, I bet you could start one quite easily on FB and use zoom to connect with each other and your LO's
Xxx

I am 39 and i know its the time that we are in at the min i am trying to find group i have only just joined mn x

@Sunniwendy Hi, how old is your little one? I was completely alone 4 years ago when my daughter was born. Obviously nothing was closed for covid then, but I was still feeling very isolated and didn't even take her to a group or talk to another mum until she was 9 months old and I joined a once a week singing group at the library. I had some post natal depression and anxiety too and felt like I couldn't get anything done with my clingy baby. It's a crazy lonely time for some, I hadn't anticipated feeling like this during my pregnancy. Is your little one a newborn? The teary frightening baby blues were very real for me from about 3 days in.

I have really bad anxity and post natal depression he is 3 months and i just feel osolated its really bad he is clingy now i cant do anything cause he has reflux and colic x

Reflux and colic is so hard. Have you spoke to the GP about the reflux? There's medicine that can sometimes help called Omprezale (I didn't find another called gaviscon helped).

There are also Facebook support groups for reflux.

It's very hard so do be kind to yourself

I'm also a single mum with a 6 month baby and I know your pain I haven't had a break at all but I find mumsnet a godsend. Also look at the frolo app its for single parents and they have zoom calls and people chat its a great app.

I know its tough and you can't see any sort of break ahead but I promise it will get easier they dont stay babies for long

I was a single mum of a 3 year old and 6 month old after their dad died suddenly. I had family near but none of them willing to help at all. Groups were open then but I never went to the m as i found ppl went to the m with a friend anywa. It was really hard. Most days I would take them out for walks. I know it's winter but bundle your little one up and just walk. Or if you drive will they sleep in car? Thinking back to that time I find it hard to believe I got through but I just went day to day. Make sure you get out the house. Being in the house will make you feel worse and I know the situation is difficult now with covid but maybe go to a public place so you're around people. I'm still a single mum now and just being around ppl not even talking to ppl makes me feel a bit better. It's easy for me to say now but as a mother who has gone through a lot of lonely stressful days it does get better. It will get better.