Hi Everyone,
I've been grappling with this issue for a few days and I've decided there is only one thing for it - lay it out for my fellow lone parents to help!
My daughter's father contracted Covid around NYE after his parents came down with it having caught it on Christmas Day after they ignored all the warnings when they all mixed with extended family.
As a result my daughter - age7- (who had been spending Xmas day with him and his parents) had to isolate.
My ex has been really poorly and as a result DD has missed her weekly sleep overs with him for the last 3 weeks.
Only last week he emailed to say he might need to go on a ventilator. (The fact that he could email to let me know that put my mind at rest that he was probably going to be fine.) However his mother was hospitalised last week but is now home.
However my ex emailed me yesterday to say he and his parents are all now 'feeling much better' and can we now resume DD's visits starting this week.
Well I almost had a funny turn!
Do they need to deep clean their house?
How do we know they are not contagious? (There is no love lost between us, I know he wouldn't be careful not to spread it to me via DD).
He was also not very careful with keeping to the restrictions before he caught it, trying to arrange a Pizza restaurant date with his GF and her 2 kids right before the Xmas hols.
RED FLAGS!
I'm working full time from home, and home schooling my other DD in year 5 (she chooses not to see her my ex, her father) and DD I'm writing about here so believe me if I felt comfortable about sending her she would be straight there!
This isn't a case of me stopping DD visiting my ex out of any kind of spite etc. It genuine concern for our safety.
Sorry for the essay - my question is -
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Send her or not send her and what assurances would you want in place?
Thanks wonderful Mumsnetters xx