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Any ideas for re-building a social life?

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neva · 28/10/2007 12:06

I would love to have some company when my children are at their dads. I spend a couple of hours at a course - great fun, but there are still a lot of hours to fill. I'm in my forties and not looking to go clubbing, but it would be good to have someone say to go for a walk with! My good friends all live miles away. Any ideas?

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harman · 28/10/2007 12:27

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chocolatespiders · 28/10/2007 12:30

i feel the same to be honest.... have company at work but thats it, talk to mums at dd1's school buut dont talk to anyone at dd2 school > they all seem to know each other from pre school and my dd went to a different one...

i would love some good friends, to hang out with

NotQuiteCockney · 28/10/2007 12:31

Take courses, join a sports club, find an activity you like doing, and meet people that way?

If you like to walk a lot, there's always the Ramblers ...

OverMyDeadBody · 28/10/2007 12:39

I'd also suggest taking up an activity or sport, is there something you did pre-kids that you could start up again?

I found it the best way to make new friends and do stuff

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neva · 28/10/2007 13:37

Thanks for replies, seems there are lots in a similar situation. I live in Herts. I am not sporty, but am making some enquiries about nordic walking lessons! I get the impression that it is easier for men, they just ring up a friend and go to the pub. Seems there is a need for some kind of single mums social club.

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AMAZINWOMAN · 28/10/2007 20:18

I would also love to rebuild my social life, but i am with kids all the time, making it very difficult. As soon as they are older it will be easier for me to take up new hobbies (there is so much i want to do)

i talk to people in work, but its not the same. People in my work are kids free and spend their time bitching behind peoples back-which i feel too old for and have no interest at all

so i feel lonelier in work than at home!

Skribble · 28/10/2007 21:35

Clubs and night clubs could be good but my advice is try do something where you have to comunicate with the other people in the class or group. I did a computer course and we all sat staring at computers and then went home, I imagine fitness things like spinning and aerobics could have a similar lack of communication. Need something with discussion and contact. Need to do something myself .

Catnkids · 28/10/2007 22:30

I'm in the same boat. Fed up of spending night after night on my own here but too shy to do a night class and I've got a back problem so no chance of anything sporty.

I joined a mums social club but they only went out once in 6 months and they were all married so not much good for me. I can also only go out on a Friday night when the kids are at their dads - i struggle to get a sitter in the week.

It feels like everything is against me, I'm desperate for company and a social life but can only go out one night a week so how am I going to meet new friends? I feel so alone sometimes.

Haven't managed to find a single mums club in this area, Cheshire. If anyone's heard of one please let me know!!

Skribble · 28/10/2007 22:43

Catnkids perhaps a nightclass where you don't have to communicate to the rest of the class might be a good place to start, then do something more social.

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neva · 29/10/2007 12:01

Catnkids I am shy too, but am really enjoying the language class I go to. I would recommend taking that first step and giving it a go. If you can't find a babysitter, maybe there is some daytime activity you could do when the children are with their dad eg country walking. There must be some lovely countryside in Cheshire!

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harrietsmum · 29/10/2007 21:47

I feel the same.Although married friends want to be supportive you cn understand that their kids and partner need time with them at weekends.

I am in Hampshire

Catnkids · 29/10/2007 22:09

Thanks for the hints but so far I haven't found any classes that run on Friday nights and weekdays are a bit tricky cos I'm trying to find work, wouldn't want to start something and then drop out.

Cheshire is very beautiful and North Wales is stunning but I can't do walks cos of my back S I'm waiting for specialist physio but it's taking a long time to get an appt.

Harrietsmum: I definitely agree with you. My married friends can only do so much and then I feel guilty cos I'm keeping them from their families, their marriage is important and the time with their children too. I feel guilty for keeping them away.

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