Hey,
This situation is beginning to drain me, me and Ex DH have been apart since 2011 when he walked out and left us. He's since been up and down with contact, when he doesn't have a partner he's always wanting to see him/contact him and when he does it's limited and always with the partner.
I facilitate contact and in the last year have stopped chasing ex to see him in the evening once a week and instead he sees his only on the alt weekend which is fine.
The ex is on his 4th girlfriend since we split and each he's introduced to our son, I've never met them so don't really know much about them. He always moves in with them after a month or so and our son starts staying there.
I think the issue is more evident with our DS less wanting to speak to / see his dad as he's now lived in 7 homes with him (when he splits he moves in with dad/shared rental/mum) and two previous girlfriends have had children, the current does also. My son has a half sister who he never sees or speaks too which has upset him in the past when his friends don't believe he has a sister as they've never seen her.
He's just got engaged and told DS, DS is no longer replying to him and when I mentioned seeing him he got very upset.
I don't really know where to go from here, it doesn't bother me that he is engaged, if he can finally show stability that's a great thing. But I think it's messing with his head as a few months ago he told DS he was moving out the house to spend more time with him and it'll be them two.
Any advice on what to do please? Do I push my son to reply? Push my ex to make more of an effort? It's been a draining 9 years so far... 