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Guilt of dating

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dilly123 · 01/01/2021 11:21

Background 2 DC's 17 & 9.. eldest has contact with father, youngest doesn't (never has, dad's choice).. I've more or less been single since youngest DC was born apart from a relationship with a family friend that he'd known for years before hand .. this only lasted less than a year & ended 18 months ago.. no drama or trauma just better off friends... I went on a date on Wednesday (coastal walk & take away coffee) was great & would love to see him again but so torn with guilt that I shouldn't! DC causes a little fuss whenever I go out without him.. with friends etc.. he's made comments that I shouldn't have Tinder on my phone because he doesn't want a dad.. obviously I've explained that I'm not looking for a dad for him but it might be nice for me to have a male friend at some point because one day he & his sister will be off living their lives .. I can't say he's crazy anti the idea, he doesn't tantrum or outright say he doesn't want me to meet someone.. I think the guilt feeling comes from inside me.. does anyone experience this & how do I get passed this.. I'm happy being single & independent there's definitely not been a succession of uncles in his life but probably I'm ready to let someone in my life now slowly but the guilty feeling makes me reluctant to agree to a 2nd date.. ??

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omg35 · 01/01/2021 21:57

Tbh I think kids that age struggle to think of their parents as sexual beings. I don't think you let a 17yo rule your life though- I'd just say you deserve adult company from time to time

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