You all predicted it....

[WingingItAtLife]

I posted yesterday about ex not seeing the kids and me having to sort childcare.
He text today that he wanted the kids for a few hours so I agreed. I asked about childcare in the new year and he said that I need to sort it out cz he won't be doing any after school, only weekends.

Why do men think it's okay to abandon the childcare to the women? Three weeks ago he was arguing with me that he wanted 50/50 and going 4 days (sat-tues) not seeing his kids wasnt fair.

I need to use the CMS calculator but I highly doubt he'll pay up x

Hey!!

Totally been there done that x2

I now focus on myself and kids e
They'll realise when they're old enough, don't beat yourself duo or stress about it. They'll learn they're own way trust me it happens :)

If your on Instagram is read some mums bloggers I really found peace with what I find with hashtags I relate to.

Iv actually just set one up, take a look username @workingmum101 and reach out to me on there if need to rant I went through 4 year court battle with my eldest and disappearing act on my youngest I'm here for you girl x

It will give you less stress in the long run. No worrying if he will pick them up. No last min dash to get them picked up. Etc.

Let him slowly filter out. The children will know who supported them and was there for them.

If he is employed cms will give him the opportunity to pay you directly. If he doesn't they will take directly from his wages and add a 20% increase for their trouble.

Been there, got the T-shirt

My ex was theatening to go for full custody when we first split up, over the next 5 years the kids often went as much as 9 months without seeing him or hearing from him. We just got on with life without him.

I've messaged him tonight an mentioned the CMS, told him to use the calculator. He told me I won't get any maintenance while he's paying the mortgage (on the house HE Is refusing to move out of). So I told him to put it on the market, he said no.

If I got a solicitor involved to force a sale how long is It likely to take? And will it cost an awful lot?

Yes solicitors cost a bomb!! Found out the hard way. Just go through cms. They will take it out of his wages and give it to you.